Thursday, April 10, 2025

A Mother Between a Fight

 

On the way back from office, at a particular point on the roadside, I sensed there was a scuffle going on. Or it was a fight about to break out between some people. When I crossed the scene, I noticed that two auto-rickshaws had stopped and a tall dark guy in his late 20s was having a scuffle with someone, while two women were also standing by and then one of the women tried to stop and calm down the boy. From the way they were dressed, they all looked uneducated. The boy got agitated by her interruption and angrily shouted at her. It seemed she was his mother and she was stopping him from getting into physical fight with an auto-rickshaw driver.

I have read this ‘feminist’ claim many times that if women ruled the world, there won’t be any wars. While history tells a very different story, I think this claim is just another feminist propaganda made with a singular motive in mind. What I think a valid statement could be is to say that there won’t be any wars if “mothers” ruled the world. Not all women have got the mindset or character to think like a mother. Mothers, because of their God-like act of giving birth to a child, have a natural tendency to “preserve” and are naturally “anti-destruction”. One who constructs can’t be naturally inclined towards destruction. This is why; the role of “creator” is marked with a different god than the “destroyer” in Hindu Trinity (three aspects of God/Paramatman). If mothers had the power to influence events, at local or global level, it is logical to believe there won’t be any fighting, war or destructions.

Bogged down by deliberate and mindless wars, our world desperately needs everyone to think from the eyes of a mother.

- Rahul Tiwary

Monday, April 7, 2025

Cyber Fraud in the name of CCAvenue and Shirdi Saibaba Sansthan

 

I have been to Shirdi Saibaba Mandir for few times. I tried to visit recently again, and it led to a near-miss with a cyber fraud attempt.

Since I wanted to travel alone, I booked a bus ticket to Shirdi online. The bus operator’s online booking website mentioned about the terms and conditions, and they suggested to book VIP Passes in order to finish the darshan fast. In my past travels, I had always gone through the regular route, hence I thought of trying the VIP Pass this time. Shirdi Saibaba Sansthan has a website through which I booked VIP Pass for Rs 200. The next day, I got a call from the bus operator who told me that they have cancelled the trip and returning my booking amount since they have not found enough bookings for the day. Since I was not traveling now, I thought to cancel my VIP Pass too. I went to the same website and cancelled my VIP Pass booking. The website displayed a message saying they have cancelled the pass but won’t be returning any money since it was non-refundable. It sounded weird given that the temple is one of the richest in the world, but since there was no option, I decided to accept it.

Several weeks since the mentioned episode, I got a phone call from a caller who introduced himself from ‘CCAvenue’, which I knew was a company running payment gateway. He said that I had booked an online aarti and puja at Saibaba temple, but the booking amount had got refunded to my bank account by mistake and I needed to return the money back to the company. The guy who was calling was an educated guy speaking in good English and he was well versed with the technicalities. I told him that as per my knowledge no money was refunded to me as per the policy of the booking website. But he insisted that the money was refunded by mistake to my account. He said, “otherwise, how would I know about your booking”? I replied, “because these days, each bank or financial transaction as well as KYC document is being sold to frauds in our country”. The guy’s voice saw only a small dip and he started arguing with me that it was my moral duty to return the money to the institution. He asked for permission to send me an email with details of how to transfer the money to his company. I told him in reply that first I would verify my bank statement to confirm whether I got any money refunded or not, and then I would decide on the next action. He said it was fine, and he would call me later again.

First thing I did was to report and block his number. Then I checked my bank statement online and found that no such refund had ever taken place after the VIP pass booking date. The guy was clearly a cyber fraud.

While I got saved since I did not trust the random guy calling me, not everyone is as lucky. As our economy is becoming more and more digital by the day, frauds of many kinds are also increasing. Most of the victims remain silent and most of the crimes never get reported. A few cases we hear about are only a tip of the iceberg. Government and public regulators are totally ineffective and inadequate in stopping the flood of these crimes, and the final responsibility falls on our shoulders. Many times, it feels that the non-digital world was safer, but in true sense, it was not safe too; just the modes of crime were different. I don’t know how many years it will take for the government and regulators to get a grip on the situation, but currently, it feels like we can be safe only by taking extreme precautions at our individual level.  

- Rahul  

Sunday, April 6, 2025

A Little Lizard Story

 

One fine day, when I opened the main door of my flat, suddenly a little house lizard entered in. In my hometown, house lizards are a common scene, but in a residential flat in a big city, I never had a lizard around. Seeing the lizard get in, the first thought that came to my mind was, “what is she going to eat (since there are no insects in the flat)?” Panicking, I knew each moment was important, hence I rushed and brought in a broom with which I tried to guide the lizard out of the door. The lizard was trying to hide behind some objects, but she saw the open door and hence went out. I immediately closed the door. The whole thing happened within a few seconds, and I breathed a sigh of relief.

After I settled in, the thought returned to my mind that my first reaction seeing a lizard in the house was not to rush it out but a worry about what the lizard would eat? The lizard was sure to be starved if she stayed in, and hence I had to send her out before she hid. This little worry about the lizard made me understand my struggles with empathy.

A little amused, I once again opened the main door and this time, there was no lizard around. Once again, a sigh of relief.

- Rahul