Sunday, October 31, 2021

The Restaurant Owner

 


I was sitting in a restaurant and after a while I noticed that the owner at his desk was speaking to someone on phone in an unusual way. When I paid attention, I understood that he was talking to some bank employee who was asking him about the loan EMIs which he had stopped paying. It was getting into an endless talk, and then the restaurant owner said that if the bank guy did not stop calling him, he would commit suic*de. I was shocked and after a while when I went to make the payment, I asked him about the phone call. He told me the whole story.

He told me that he had bought a flat just 2 months on home-loan before the Corona outbreak and Lockdown. After the lockdown, business was destroyed while he still had to pay rent of his shop, pay salaries to his employees who were working there, and still had to pay EMIs of his home loan. Even after a year, business was still not like before and hence his finances had gone for a toss. He had taken a few other loans to cover liabilities and now he had several loans with not enough monthly income to pay the EMIs. So, he had stopped paying EMIs over last few months and would pay along with penalties only when he can afford to pay. He said he blocked any bank person who called him on phone, and now he got only few calls whenever the bank guys all using a new number.

I realized the mess our country is going through due to the Covid crisis. I also thought that the bank agent’s job would also be on threat. If a lot of borrowers do not repay their loans, the bank employees will lose their jobs and the bank will get bankrupt. So, the problem being faced was a “systematic” problem.

If he closes his restaurant, jobs of 4-5 of his employees will also be lost. That is how economic crisis works. Things are all related with each other.

I also realized that men like the restaurant owner are under lot of stress. Perhaps his family does not know about the kind of stress he is under. His children would perhaps never understand, no matter what. His family and relatives will judge him harshly if he tells them about his financial problems. So, perhaps he would be suffering all alone and it was sad.

There are no easy solution to many problems. While I could empathize with him, I could not do much. But I suggested him not to argue with loan recovery agents, but just tell them that he would repay the loans very soon and end the conversation. I told him that it was only a matter of time before economy gets back to pre-Covid days, and he has to bear with it for a few more months.

Since that day, there has not been any repeat of this incident. But when I look at him, and empty seats in his restaurant, I feel a bit sad every time.

- Rahul Tiwary

Friday, October 29, 2021

Song: Think for a Minute by The Housemartins

Found this beautiful song for the first time: 


Think for a Minute

The Housemartins

Something's going on, a change is taking place

Children smiling in the street have gone without a trace

This street used to be full, it used to make me smile

And now it seems that everyone is walking single file

 

And many bow their heads in shame

That used to hold them high

And those that used to say hello

Simply pass you by

 

Think for a minute, stop for a minute

Think for a minute, stop for a minute

 

I always said it could, they never though it would

The people look so pitiful, I'm thinking that it should

And now it's almost here, now it's on it's way

I can't help saying told you so and have a nice final day

 

And nothing I could say

Could ever make them see the light

Now apathy is happy that

It won without a fight

 

Think for a minute, stop for a minute

Think for a minute, stop for a minute

 

And many hang their heads in shame that used to hold them high

And those that used to say hello simply pass you by

 

Think for a minute, stop for a minute

Think for a minute, stop for a minute

 

Songwriters: Heaton Paul David, Cullimore Stan Ian Peter


Thursday, October 28, 2021

Chopsticks (film) - a Hidden Gem

I happened to watch ‘Chopsticks’ (2019) which is a Netflix film. I got to see Abhay Deol after a long time and he has given a great performance in this. But the showstopper has been Mithila Palkar, who has given a stunning performance in this movie. I got to see her first time on screen through this movie. The movie is directed by Sachin Yardi and it has come out so very well.

The humor, the timing, the funny moments, and the touching moments are captured very well. You are going to stop breathing at the touching moments in the movie which are absolutely heart-warming.

Although this movie is categorized as ‘comedy’, I think this is a good movie with an effective nationalistic and social message too.

The movie starts with Nirma (Mithila Palkar) taking a group of Chinese tourists to visit Mumbai slums. At the end of the trip, she makes a statement to impress them saying, “This is the only place in the world which makes more counterfeit items than China”. The Chinese nationals are startled and Nirma soon realizes her mistake. In next scene, we found that Nirma is buying her new car. And at that moment, you would get to realize how this movie is showing another side of India effectively: brave working women having created their legitimate status in society; and fighting each day to sustain it.

At her workplace, Nirma has mostly female colleagues. Even her boss is a female. And she is a “toxic” boss, very clearly showing that in toxic work environment, even women employees contribute to make it toxic. Nirma’s other female colleagues make sexist comment on her, while her lady manager schools her for not being good at “English”. Nirma is punished for being middle class by being given less lucrative assignments while her posh high class colleagues get plum assignments to work on. The magic of this film is that it makes subtle comments on work culture without being preachy.

Coming back to the car, Nirma is shown as using her phone while driving, which is typically a bad habit most Indians practice. Then, she is shown to be superstitious about the car’s number plate. She is shown to have put a Guru ji’s picture on the car too, for “safety”. Alas, much to her horror, the car is stolen.

The manner in which the car is stolen is so funny and yet so realistic. At this point, we very well realize that the movie shows very “realistic” events in such a different manner that those appear novel.

Now, Abhay Deol appears on the scene. Abhay being a big star deserved a big entry. And what kind of entry does he get? Nirma climbs the stairs of an under-construction building which is in pathetic shape, removes a wooden sheet, to find Abhay cooking in a swanky nice kitchen. Yes, the movie shows Abhay’s masculinity by showing him cooking comfortably, almost in a style. As it turns out, he is a chef by hobby, while being a conman by profession. Abhay Deol is named “Artist”.

The movie shows both Mithila and Abhay getting impressed with each other and developing a bond. But it never shows any romantic relation or any dramatic scene, which is completely great. Real people do not fall in love even if they are impressed by someone from opposite gender, and the movie is so realistic in this. Near its end though, Nirma tells him in Chinese language that “you are a fool”, which he does not understand, pointing to the fact that perhaps she wanted them to keep in touch in future, while he, being a typical male did not get it.

Now, the comedy part is very impressive too. There is this gangster Faiyaaz Bhai, played by Vijay Raaz so very well, in his legendary “Kauwa Biryani” style. Faiyaaz has got a big goat named “Bahubali” for fights and at one point while he is celebrating the goat’s birthday and he noticed that the cooks have prepared mutton biryani for the feast, he slaps the contractor saying, “How would Bahubali feel, seeing his someone from his own clan being slaughtered for food?” It was hilarious. The rest of the story and how Nirma gets her car back is also very entertaining.

There is one more scene which stands out. A politician is causing traffic jam as he and his supporters are making a band play music in public. Abhay Deol walks to a band member and bribes him to make him play the national anthem. After the national anthem is played, the whole atmosphere is changed; and the politician and his supporters call off their celebration. Hats off to whoever wrote this part of script.

I really enjoyed this movie and if you have not watched it, please search for “Chopsticks” on Netflix.

And yes, in the last scene of the movie, Nirma gives up trying to eat with Chopsticks and teaches Chinese people to each with hand instead. I told you, this is a sensible ‘nationalistic’ movie.

Here are some of the scenes from the movie along with my 'unnecessary commentary': 


When Nirma is taking a big group of Chinese tourists to visit a Mumbai slum, two guys make this comment. One wonders why so many foreigners are visiting their slum these days. The other guy tells him that the movie Slumdog Millionaire is to be blamed. Then, the first guys tells that “is picture banana wale ko “phat ke” maarna chahiye”. The second one agrees by saying, “Litaa litaa kar”. Hilarious. 



This is the epic scene where Nirma makes the “more counterfeit products than China” statement. Here, she almost reminds me of Raj Kapoor making that “Mera joota hai Japani” song. She even has a cap on her head. 



Nirma explains why her parents gave her this name. 



Abhay Deol makes a stunning entry. A macho man who cooks. 



Artist gives a lesson to Nirma “for life”, telling her that “there is always a way, if there is a will”. 



Finally, the coming of age scene where Nirma gathers enough courage and quits her job, her toxic manager and that abusive, toxic workplace. 

- Rahul Tiwary


Sunday, October 24, 2021

Mahatma Gandhi on 'Online Hate'

 

I am a big fan of Mahatma Gandhi, and I was wondering if Gandhi ji would be alive today, what would he speak about “online hate”. Online hate is something which may be looked at as a “spin off” of plain vanilla hatred. I collected some of the quotes attributed to Gandhi ji in order to capture what he could have said on this topic. Hope you like these.

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Hate the sin, love the sinner. - Mahatma Gandhi

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Retaliation is counter-poison and poison breeds more poison. The nectar of Love alone can destroy the poison of hate. - Mahatma Gandhi

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If you love peace, then hate injustice, hate tyranny, hate greed, but hate these things in yourself, not in another. - Mahatma Gandhi

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The world is weary of hate. - Mahatma Gandhi

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Hatred can be overcome only by love. - Mahatma Gandhi

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God is Light, not darkness. God is Love, not hate. God is truth, not untruth. God alone is great. - Mahatma Gandhi

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My personal religion peremptorily forbids me to hate anybody. - Mahatma Gandhi

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Harshness is conquered by gentleness, hatred by love, lethargy by zeal and darkness by light. -Mahatma Gandhi

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I would rather drown myself in the waters of the Sabarmati than harbour hate or animosity in my heart. - Mahatma Gandhi

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True ahimsa should mean a complete freedom from ill-will and anger and hate and an overflowing love for all. - Mahatma Gandhi

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I may fight the British ruler, but I do not hate the English or their language. In fact, I appreciate their literary treasures. - Mahatma Gandhi

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It is no non-violence if we merely love those that love us. It is non-violence only when we love those that hate us. - Mahatma Gandhi

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One may detest the wickedness of a brother without hating him. - Mahatma Gandhi

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- Rahul Tiwary


Saturday, October 23, 2021

Is there a larger conspiracy behind anti-Hindu Advertisements?

 

These days, we are witnessing mass online protests against one commercial Ad after another, other what appears to be anti-Hindu content. FabIndia is latest example, where the company aired an Ad appealing to Muslims on the occasion of Diwali and people were immediately offended by it. Before that Myntra and Tanishq are other recent examples which created outrage.

On the surface, people are wondering why so many companies are showing Ads which are especially against Hindu culture. There is no similar attempt to hurt feelings of other religions and Hindus are specifically the target. My views on this are as follows.

If we notice which companies are making such “risky” Ads, we can notice that mostly big multinational or national corporations are making such ads, not small or medium size companies. Most Advertisements try to do sales promotion for companies’ products and services. These are part of marketing campaigns over which big companies spend crores of rupees. If a company gives a discount which happens during Diwali sales and puts advertisement, it will increase sales only during the “season”. So, what most big companies are trying to do is to shape “customer behavior permanently” through these Ad campaigns! Think about it and it will keep getting clearer.

A few years ago, most companies and products in India were local or national. Since 1990s, lot of MNCs came to India. Plus, there are many foreign Ad Agencies working in India too. The MNCs found local Indian culture, which was predominately Hindu culture, “different”. Traditional Indian culture did not encourage the over-commercial, materialistic, transactional, impulsive shopping experiences. Indians were looking for mainly permanent solutions rather than things which need to be replaced every few years (this is why Japanese products became too popular in India, before American brands arrived). So, these companies, instead of molding their products and services totally for the local culture, decided to change the behavior patter of Indian consumers. They heavily relied on mass media campaigns and advertisements for this purpose.

Many people have noticed that TV Ads do not show Hindu women wearing “bindi” anymore. It is simply because if they show women wearing Bindi, it sends a “traditional” impression in the minds of viewers, and hence customers are not encouraged to do impulsive shopping. Hence the TV Ads essentially show women in Western attire, doing shopping, bullying their husbands, or doing things what traditionally men do, in order to trigger modern, liberated impressions in customers, which could promote generous, impulsive shopping in female customers.

And when it comes to promote such commercial culture, all companies are on the “same side”, because it is in their common interest to change customer behaviour towards materialism and excessive, impulsive buying. Also, most businesses are inter-connected these days and higher sales in one business can also increase sales in other sectors.

Therefore, I think the larger battle we are witnessing is to “change customer behavior permanently”, “make them more Western in thinking and decision making”, “get them out of traditional culture which discourages spending”, and the likes. These companies are trying to tell us that we have got “one life” and hence we need to enjoy that "one chance of human life" by buying their products and services which at the end of the day means transferring our money from our bank accounts into their pockets ASAP. That is the ultimate purpose of all these Ads. So, I think that these Ads do not specifically want to hurt Hindu feelings, but are ending up doing it because the Hindu culture is coming in their way. 

What FabIndia probably tried to do was to "differentiate" itself among the minds of Muslim customers, making use of the Diwali festival. During Diwali time, all companies and brands appeal the festival driven customers, who are predominantly Hindu, although Diwali has a secular side too. If we look at marketing campaigns of most brands, they make use of symbols of Diya, Shri Ganesha or pictures of Goddess Lakshmi too. What perhaps FabIndia tried to do was to try to stand out of the crowd, and appeal to Muslims by giving their campaign a different look. If it worked, perhaps FabIndia would have got sales from Muslim customers during Diwali, which could be seen as a "win" for marketing team, right? They took a "risk" and it backfired because customers still see Diwali as a Hindu festival and were not happy with any company tampering their experience. 

I think it would be more sensible for all companies' future growth to understand the local culture and try to interwind their product and services with the local culture, instead of confronting it. Brands like Cadbury already succeeded in doing it many years ago, when it tried to make people buy and gift chocolates along with Diwali sweets on the festive occasion. Cadbury did not call sweets "regressive" or try to make those who buy sweets appear inferior. It did not offend, and hence it was more successful. 

As a bottom line, I would want that companies and brands should show better sensibility by not hurting local Hindu culture and rather make use of local cultural nuances to their advantage.

- Rahul Tiwary

Friday, October 15, 2021

Indecent Proposal

 


I watched this old movie named “Indecent Proposal” (1993). I had come across it a couple of times on Netflix but did not open it so far. After watching it, I liked it.

The centerpiece of this movie or its plot is a couple who had married young and are currently in a big financial crisis during recession and about to lose their house. An older billionaire spots the cheerful young wife and likes her. He proposes to the couple that he would give them 1 million dollars for the lady to spend “one night” with him. The couple decline the offer and move away. Later, they ponder over the offer since it would solve their financial crisis forever. The wife says that if husband agrees, she is ok to accept the offer. They vow not to talk about the episode ever in life. The wife goes, comes back, the couple gets money, they move on, but then the billionaire keeps chasing the lady and in the meanwhile the husband starts suspecting her; their relationship sours, they move separate and the woman goes back to the billionaire. The man is broken at first, and then picks himself up and survives. Then the lady asks for divorce, so the husband signs the papers in her presence after making an emotional “film like” appeal to her that he “still loves her”. The billionaire notices that the lady still had affection for her husband, and hence leaves her. She goes back to her husband and story ends.

Now, since I am married, I think I am qualified to make a few comments on where they made mistakes or what went wrong.

For the billionaire, it was ok to fall in love with her, or the idea of her, but it was not ok to make such kind of “indecent proposal”. If he was looking for a wife who was unspoiled by money and glamor, he could have found such a woman who was not yet married. It was not necessary to chase a married woman. Now, suppose we give him a benefit of doubt, saying that love cannot be “planned”, while practically we see people planning everything, and suppose he truly fell in love with her at first sight due to her innocence, he should have backed off after coming to know that she was happily married. Or, he had the chance to make friends with the couple, in that platonic relationship, he could have enjoyed her friendship without doing anything wrong. Plus, it was very wrong for him to use his wealth as a tool to torture the lady, by buying her house or interrupting her at her workplace. He was definitely a mean guy, even though he pretended that he was not so.

It appears strange for a moment that the wife had “volunteered” to go with the billionaire. The husband initially never took the proposal seriously, but only after she volunteered, he gave consent. Does that make her a bad wife? I think she made that proposal because she felt “ownership” of herself and her body, and it was like the feminist war-cry “my body, my choice”. It would have been very wrong for the husband to propose it, and she would have hated him forever due to it, but in that sense, it was logical that she made that proposal. And her proposal to accept the offer of the billionaire was wrong. What she agreed to do was still “cheating” on her marriage. It was surely going to be humiliating for the husband, no matter what he said at that time. As a bottom line, it was okay for her to divorce her husband, but not ok to go with another man while she was married.

Now, the husband was of course stupid to agree to her plan of accepting the billionaire’s offer. As expected, he soon repented and ran to stop her, but it was too late.

The tricky moment came when the billionaire declared that he won’t force himself upon her and would do only what she agrees. At that moment, the lady should have stopped him and not allowed to touch her. She already had backing of a signed agreement which said she would get the money no matter what. But she thought that since the billionaire had paid money, he must get its price. It was like offering ourselves to a lion, just because the lion has been running for 10 kilometers to get to reach us. She was a lamb who showed mercy at the lion who was trying to eat her. It looks foolish, but I guess it happens with emotional people.

Later in the movie, many wrong things happened. The husband should never have insisted to know “what happened”, because it was impossible for him to tolerate her after knowing the details. The lady should also not have told him details, no matter how much he asked. The lady should not have gone to the billionaire, changing her hatred into liking just because she saw he was trying too hard to get her. She should have taken help from the Police since he was stalking her and also harassing her. It could be seen that she did not try to resist him enough. But then, it was just a movie story.

Now, the billionaire should also not have tried to marry her because what if she later repented her decision! It was easy for her to start liking him, because he did not have much to dislike except for his age, but what if she later changed her mind? But since he was a billionaire, he had the privilege to take chances.

And it was also not okay for the husband to try to stop the wife from marrying the billionaire and to get her back. She had seen the life of luxury once, she had liked the billionaire once, and what if even after returning, she keeps a double mind about if she did right or wrong by returning? I mean, it is difficult to trust a disloyal person and by going with the billionaire, she had shown her disloyalty once. It was risky to trust her again, but then perhaps the husband was driven by his ‘male ego’ in his attempt to get her back. 

All said and done, it was a very interesting plot and movie indeed.

- Rahul Tiwary

Thursday, October 14, 2021

Panipat - Film - 2019

I watched ‘Panipat’ (2019) recently. I had missed it at the time it was released mainly due to negative reviews floating all around. After watching it now, I can’t understand why there was so much negative publicity done at the time of its release and it even seems a “conspiracy” now. I found Panipat to be a brilliant piece of art, a cinematographic masterpiece and a movie worth becoming epic for decades to come. Perhaps the only thing which could have provoked media houses at the time of its release was the fact that the movie shows Maratha Empire in a positive light. Marathas had lost the great battle of Panipat, and perhaps famed movie reviewers were not impressed by the manner in which they are not shown negatively in this movie. Other than that, I can’t get any other reason. I now feel upset at missing to watch this movie and the fact that all those negative reviews stopped it from becoming a Box Office Hit. I would definitely compare this in the league with “Bajirao Mastani”.

Arjun Kapoor has played a great role and his body transformation for the role of Sadashiv Rao Bhau is magical. Kriti Sanon has played this historical role very comfortably and even Sanjay Dutt has done a great job.

Here are a few pictures for the sake of memory:

 












- Rahul Tiwary


Wednesday, October 13, 2021

Mumbai Saga: Why Bhau Killed Amartya Rao

 


Mumbai Saga is a brilliant movie made on the life of Mumbai’s big gangster named Amar Naik from the 1990s. If you watch this movie, its ending will look at bit puzzling.

Mumbai Saga is the story of rise of Amartya Rao (character based on late don Amar Rao) in Mumbai crime scene. The role is played by John Abraham who has done a great job. I think John’s acting has been always underrated while he has been giving one great performance after another. So, as per the plot, Amartya Rao is from a poor family who is forced to enter crime scene to protect his younger brother from other local goons. At that time, another big gangster was ruling the crime scene and there was a rising politician named Bhau (based on Balasaheb Thackeray) who noticed Amartya and promoted him so as to have his own muscle power.

Amartya rises in power but gets himself in soup after he murders a big industrialist in broad daylight in Mumbai. If he wanted it to create his terror in the minds of whole of Mumbai, he succeeded in that, but then Mumbai is too big for any single don or gang. Very soon, police starts chasing him and there is a particular police officer named Savarkar (role played by Imran Hasmi) who kills many of his close friends and even attacks Amartya at every opportunity. Bhau asks Amartya to go abroad for sometime in order to let the matter cool down, and asks him to let his younger brother run the gang in the meanwhile. But while Amartya is abroad, the policeman even attacks his younger brother and hence Amartya is forced to return back to take his injured brother to safety. At this moment, he gets to know that Savarkar is Bhau’s man and hence while he feels cheated by Bhau, he asks him to control Savarkar. Bhau is shown to have asked Savarkar to stop chasing Amartya, but right at the moment Amartya is to catch an airplane to take his brother out of India, Savarkar arrives and shoots him dead. It is shown that he had got the killing order and information about Amartya’s location from Bhau and another close aide of Amartya. Now the question comes that why did Bhau get Amartya killed when he was really a competent gangster and totally loyal to Bhau?

I tried to search for an answer but it is not logically explained anywhere. Then I thought about it and arrived at a logical reason which makes sense.

Bhau had helped Amartya rise in the crime scene and both benefitted from each other, but the moment he killed that big industrialist, Bhau got to know that Amartya was going “out of hand”. He had become too big and was no longer his puppet. Allowing him to gain more power would mean that he can be a threat to himself one day, in case the relationship sours, since both were very close and knew each other’s secrets. Hence he asked his man Savarkar to eliminate Amartya’s close aides and also him and his brother. Bhau planned to replace Amartya by someone more easily controllable as the leader of the gang.

Now, where did Amartya go wrong?

For the while everything was going fine, but the tricky moment was when Amartya came to know that Savarkar was Bhau’s man. Knowing that would mean that Savarkar can’t be after his life without Bhau’s permission and hence Amartya should have stopped trusting Bhau from that moment onward. In fact, he should have betrayed and killed Bhau too, if he wanted, since that is the rule of the mob. But, he still trusted Bhau for one last emotional thing: to take his injured younger brother to safety. Perhaps after keeping his brother to safety, he would have returned and then attacked or countered both Savarkar and Bhau. But, since he hesitated in taking an immediate step, Bhau got an upper hand and got him killed. Why should Bhau allow Amartya and his brother to escape, when he wanted them dead for so long? Amartya’s mistake was to trust Bhau even after knowing his real intention.

- Rahul Tiwary

Tuesday, October 12, 2021

People Need Not Hate Aryan Khan for Mistakes of His Father

 

These days, Aryan Khan, son of movie star Shahrukh Khan is in the news for all wrong reasons. He was arrested in an anti-drug raid by Narcotics Control Bureau (NCB). Ever since his name came out, social media went abuzz with all sort of bad press for Aryan and his father. A large number of people ridiculed Aryan. And a large number simply posted hate.

If we think about it, people do not really have reasons to “hate” Aryan Khan. Most of their hatred is coming to him only because he is son of Shahrukh Khan. Shahrukh Khan is hated by many because of his pro-Pakistan stands in the past. Now, why Shahrukh Khan took pro-Pakistan stand is not clear, but it can be seen that he had a lot of fan-following in that country and hence he tried to be in their good books. But then, the counter argument is that why would he lose fans in his own country in order to gain fans in another country? So, his true intentions would be best known to only him and a few close people around him. But Aryan Khan never made any controversial statements in the past. He was rather a camera-shy person and not much was known about him through Indian media till now. Before this drug-case, people, in general did not have any reason to dislike or hate him.

From what I read about this drug-case involving Aryan Khan, I could only feel pity for him. I felt sorry, that a man born in privileges like him could have used that opportunity to make so much positive change in our country and the world, but he simply found his escape in drugs. Is that not tragic?

And if we think about it, what Aryan faced is faced by all young people from the higher income group societies. If you move around in those circles, you are bound to find some friends or some people who take drugs. You need to have a strong character to say no and not to fall into their trap. And how can young folks who are overly protected from childhood expected to grow a strong character? We had seen in many past cases including ones involving Rahul Mahajan or Sushant how youngsters from rich families in are into drugs. It is not only their fault. It is also the fault of their friends, family and our society at large. We have not been able to make an abuse-free society. Most people fall into drugs as an “escape” and we as a society are also responsible for it.

While little is known about Aryan Khan for even me to say whether he is a good or a bad person, looking at the kind of mess he is into, I only feel sad for him. And while throwing all our hatred towards him on social media, we forget how all those can further destroy his self-image and can drag him further towards the wrong path. So much hatred, ridicule and defamation can cause him more harm than benefit. Therefore, we can see that all the people who are posting hatred against him do not really wish him well. They are just enjoying the “few days of fun” while news about him are on the front pages of media.

I wish Aryan Khan survives this crisis and changes his way never to touch such substances again and leads a positive, productive life. He is only 23, has a whole life ahead of him, and if he is able to endure this episode and changes himself for the better, he will only be proud of himself one day.

- Rahul Tiwary