I think one of the
ironies of our life is that money creates more problems than solutions for us.
There are numerous examples from our personal experiences, if we care to look
and understand. Husband and wife would work together to save money for a car. When
they have enough money, they may fight on which car to buy! There was no money
to buy a big house and a family lived with great bonding between members. When
they got a big house, all kept them locked in their own rooms and started
enjoying life with their own preferences. One of my friends once said, the love
and mutual respect is best only in families which are poor. When money comes
and in all rich families, there are only infightings and heartburns.
One can wonder if
this phenomenon is because people have not gotten used to having lots of money.
Obviously if one lived without money for many years, one would behave
unbalanced when one gets too much money. But it is not as simple as this
theory. Otherwise Ambani brothers fought against each other only when their
businesses became too big. There are numerous cases of infighting in richest of
the families, including in the royal families.
Certainly such infightings
because of money are signs of lack of culture and grooming. Truly refined
people won’t be fighting in such petty manners. But that is perhaps a flipside
of money; it corrupts. I think money has corruption powers and we can’t really
put hundred percent of blame on parties involved. Even though, the parties have
to resolve the conflict by themselves. Just because money is involved, we can’t
say that both parties have worked justifiably and the real culprit is money.
Now I see merit in age old teachings in our Indian/Hindu culture where we were
taught from childhood to look down on money. Money was looked as something
which is bad. People with too much greed for money were looked down in society.
People who did not work for money, were considered best of the lot. But not
having money is no solution. We should reach a stage when we have money and yet
we do not lose our balance in life.
Money is solution to
a lot of problems. But it is ironical that after a point, it is the money which
becomes the problem and there are not solutions in sight for such a problem.
- Rahul
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