#Books: Anuurag by Jyoti Tiwari

'Annurag' is a novel based on real life story by author and activist Jyoti Tiwari. The book is available in both Hindi and English and I read its English version.

The book is based on the real life story of Jyoti's late brother - Anurag Tiwari. The book describes him as a regular young man, just like others, with deep love for life and his family. But as if the tragic turn to his life after marriage was not enough, that it had to end in the most devastating way. I would leave the readers to discover the details inside the book. 

The book is written in an autobiographical manner. But in the book, a sister is writing the story of her brother as if he were telling his own story. It is a touchy one. The book starts with the family history;about how Anuurag and Jyoti's father who served in the Army struggled to lead his family and raised them. The anecdotes from their childhood are too touching and transport us very pleasantly to our own childhood days. After reading the story the reader can't remain without feeling oneself as a friend to the author's family. As Anuurag finds his girl and marries her, it looks 'picture perfect'. But the girl and her family turn out to be different in values and nature and hell breaks loose. 

The law in India is biased in favor of married women. Husbands, even if at the receiving end of exploitation and torture, have got little say. This story of Annurag is a testimony to how the biased laws destroy happy families and make lives of numerous men and their parents/siblings a living hell. You have to read it to discover yourself. 

The book is available at Amazon and Flipkart with links given below: 

Anuurag at Amazon

Anuurag at Flipkart

Jyoti also has a Facebook page for her book here. She also has a website which hosts some of her thoughts and writing: https://authorjyotitiwari.com/

Till recently Jyoti Tiwari was very active on Facebook, spreading awareness about men's rights and well being. She is one of the rare male rights activists in India which our society so dearly needs. But sometime back it seems her Facebook profile has been restricted in some way as it does not work like before. But she is also on Twitter and can be followed at: https://twitter.com/jyotitiwari05

I wish Jyoti well. The loss of her family can never be made even. We can only hope that no other man gets to live the life her brother had to live after his marriage. 

Om Shanti.

- Rahul Tiwary

#Nature: The Stray Dog Family

Day-1:

Saw a 'mother-dog' walking with her litter of pups. The three pups were so small that they appeared unbelievable. But they were there, walking behind their mother who led them to cross the road. The third one in the rear was covered in black mud. Perhaps it had fallen in some drain and was rescued by its mother. Its small tail, covered in mud was pointing to the sky, looking like an antenna. The mother-dog was walking slowly, because while she walked one step, the pups had to run four, in order to be with her.

It is a moment like this when earth stops rotating, time stops clocking, heart stops beating, wind stops blowing and the 'moment' is frozen in time! It is absolute 'nirvana'!

Day-2: 

While passing through the same lane, saw another amazing scene. The 'mother dog' was taking a stroll on the road along with a male dog, perhaps the father of the three pups. At just a small distance from them, the three beautiful small pups were playing. And all three of them were shining in their white fur. It means that the small pup which was drenched in mud last evening, was washed and cleaned by its mother and now it was impossible to differentiate between the three pups!

How did she clean the little muddy pup? A colleague said that she must have brought the pup in a pool of water, would have made it wet with it and then shook it to remove all the dirt and finally would have cleaned up whatever remained with her tongue. That was his guess of course. Whatever was done, it was done impeccably! Heart warming for the second day straight.

Day-3: 

One little white pup was see walking around. It was soooo very small. Its a darling. 

Hope to write more. 

- Rahul 

#History: Game of Thrones: Bairam Khan and Rahim

History is full of mesmerizing and horrifying events. The Mughals established the Mughal Empire in India and some people appreciate them for being settlers rather than invaders. But the legacy they have left behind all through their timeline reeks of such a culture of treachery and blood-bath that even the TV series Game of Thrones would appear gentle in their comparison. Let us see the story of the family of Rahim - one of the Nav Ratnas from Akbar's court.

It all started for us with Bairam Khan. Bairam Khan was a Turk, born in Badakhshan in Central Asia. His grandfather and father had served Babur. Even his great grandfather was related to Babur's wife as brother. So the family ties of Bairam Khan to the Mughals were very strong. Bairam Khan entered into Babur's service at the age of 16. When Humayun became the king, Bairam Khan played key role in his military quests. He was the commander of his army. After Humayun's death in 1556, Bairam Khan was appointed regent over the young monarch Akbar. He served as the guardian, teacher and adviser of Akbar. Bairam Khan also had Salima Sultan, one of the cousins of Akbar as his second wife.

In the second Battle of Panipat between Akbar and Hemu, Bairam Khan defeated Hemu while Akbar was still a young man. When Akbar turned old and experienced enough, he found Bairam Khan at cross to his own opinions. Due to the differences in opinion between them and due to conspiracy against Bairam Khan (he was a Shia Muslim while Mughals were dominated by Sunnis) in the Mughal court, he was ordered by Akbar to either retire or else go on Haj pilgrimage. That must be an emotional moment for him, because it was Bairam Khan who had helped build the Mughal empire, defeated Hemu and virtually raised and trained Akbar. He chose to go on Haj. While passing through Gujarat, he and his men were attacked and killed by a Pathan General loyal to Hindu king Hemu, as a revenge for the killing Hemu. Thus unfortunately ended the otherwise splendid life of this warrior general.

After Bairam Khan was dead, his second wife, Salima Sultan was re-married to Akbar, her cousin. But the story of Bairam Khan's family tree does not end here.

Rahim was Bairam Khan's son. Yes, the same Abdul Rahim Khan-e-Khana, the famous poet and one of Akbar's nine prominent ministers - the Navaratnas. It might look weird that after getting rid of Bairam Khan, Akbar appointed his son Rahim as one of the Navratnas in his court. Since Akbar had married Salima Sultan, step-mother of Rahim, in this way, Rahim had also become Akbar's step-son. Rahim was a devotee of Lord Krishna and wrote many poems in his devotion. Rahim was a contemporary of Tulsidas and had some interesting conversations with him.

Rahim has written a lot of poems which we have read in our school text books. A sample is as follows, to help you recall:

रहिमन वे नर मर चुके, जे कहू मंगन जाही,

उनते पहेले वे मुए, जिन मुख निकसत नहीं.

“Rahim says - he who has to ask something from another is no longer a man/ human being. But those who refuse to give were never men/ humans to begin with.”

रहिमन धागा प्रेम का, मत तोड़ो चटकाय,

टूटे से फिर न जुड़े, जुड़े गाँठ पड़ जाये.

“Rahim says - do not break the thread of love/ friendship in a haste. Once it snaps, it cannot be rejoined and if you do try to rejoin it, it will always have a knot in it.”

So, what is the next phase in this story?

Near the end of Akbar's life, his son Jahangir tried to snatch power from him. Jahangir was a fanatic and did not shared the religious tolerance of his father. He rebelled against Akbar and made a march to Agra with his army. In retaliation, Akbar declared his grandson Khushru Mirza (Jahangir's son) as his own successor instead of Jahangir. But when Akbar died of dysentery in 1605, a struggle for succession broke between his prominent and legitimate sons. Finally, Jahangir captured the power and became the Fourth Mughal ruler of Delhi. In the meanwhile, Khusrau Mirza revolted against Jahangir; was defeated in 1606 and confined in the fort of Agra. As a punishment Khusrau Mirza was partially blinded and died or killed in custody.

During the power struggle, Rahim had stood with Khusrau Mirza. After all, that was the "will" of Akbar before he died! When we look at the long history of Bairam Khan's family serving the Mughals, it only appears normal that Rahim tried to do what his master and stepfather Akbar wanted. But he paid heavily for his decision.

After Jahangir became king, he got both sons of Rahim killed for standing against Jahangir in his quest for power. They were executed at a gate now famously called "Khooni Darwaja" in Delhi. Their bodies were left to rot.The gate still stands today, on the Bahadur Shah Zafar Marg opposite the Feroz Shah Kotla Cricket Ground.

With both sons killed, no one remained in the family of Bairam Khan after Rahim's death at the age of 70.

The unfortunate story of this family does not end there.

Rahim had built a tomb for his wife in 1598 in Delhi. But after Rahim's death, he was buried in this very tomb in 1627. That means, no one cared to build a new tomb for him. Still, the tomb was beautiful. After all, it was built by Rahim - one of the poet gems from Akbar's court. The tomb was decorated with stucco work on red sandstone, Delhi quartzite and marble. Its structure was similar to that of Humayun's tomb.

Then, in 1753, the Nawab of Awadh Shuja-ud-Daula constructed a tomb in Delhi for his father - Mirza Mukin Abul Mansur Khan 'Safdarjung'. He stripped Rahim's Tomb of its precious stones and marbles and used that to build Safdarjung's tomb! The Safdarjang's Tomb is situated next to the Safdarjang Airport in Delhi.

The picture with this post shows the tomb in Nizamuddin, Delhi, where Rahim is buried. You can see its walls and dome from where all the marble and precious stones are gone! In the background you would see Humayun's tomb, standing beautifully.

I have found that most of the Mughal architecture in Delhi have been 'restored' beautifully by the Archaeological Survey of India (ASI) using tax payer's money. I wonder if they would some day look at Rahim's Tomb too. Or if they would let it remained robbed off its marble and stand disgraced, in true identification with the history and becoming of this famous personality who is buried there.

Thus ended this part of history from the time of the Mughal Empire.

- Rahul Tiwary

#Nature: Flowers in Delhi All Around

Winter seems to be the best time for flowers in Delhi. There are flowers all around, be it in parks, housing societies or even on the road side. Hence it is also an appropriate time when Mughal Garden is open for the public (checkout my blog post on the park). Following are two random pictures from the season this year' although as of now winter is over and summer is approaching. 

Flowers inside a park:

Flowers lying on the road:

All pictures (C) Rahul Tiwary; pictures taken in March 2018

#Travelogue: Acharya Narendra Dev Rose Garden - Delhi

Acharya Narendra Dev Rose Garden - Delhi is situated near Firoz Shah Kotla

Views of Firoz Shah Kotla (Fort) from the garden:

All pictures (C) Rahul Tiwary; pictures taken in March 2018

#Travelogue: National Gandhi Museum - Delhi

If you pick up the receiver of these phones, you would hear Gandhi ji's actual pre-recorded voice; this was an amazing experience:

Replica of Gandhi ji's working cabin:

Actual blood stained clothes of Gandhi ji is kept below in enclosed case:

Pictures (C) Rahul Tiwary; pictures taken in March 2018

#Travelogue: Delhi Gate - Delhi

Pictures (C) Rahul Tiwary; pictures taken in March 2018

#Travelogue: Samta Sthal - Memorial Monument of Babu Jagjivan Ram - Delhi

The Samadhi and memorial:

Picture (C) Rahul Tiwary

#Travelogue: Firoz Shah Kotla - Delhi

Feroz Shah Kotla is a spectacular structure built in 1354 by Delhi's ruler Firoz Shah Tughluq who ruled Delhi between 1351 and 1388.

All pictures (C) Rahul Tiwary; pictures taken in March 2018

#Travelogue: Raj Ghat and Gandhi Samadhi - Delhi

All pictures (C) Rahul Tiwary. Pictures taken in March 2018

#Travelogue: Akshardham Temple Delhi

Below are some of the pictures of Akshardham Temple, Delhi, taken in March 2018.

The temple does not allow us to take pictures from inside the premises as we have to deposit all items in safe lockers before entering. Although there are official photographers inside whom you could hire. These pictures are taken from Akshardham Metro Station; that is the best place to both reach to the temple and to photograph it.

Cars parked at Akshardham Metro Station; I liked the disciplined manner in which those are parked; almost like someone has picked and arranged these toys in rows:

All pictures (C) Rahul Tiwary

#Thoughts: Meaning of Women's Day

I was an early adopter of blogging. Those days I used to write about anything new I came across. And in one March I came across International Women's Day (March 8). I always had a strong sense of fairness and having grownup with my two sisters, I always had a favorable opinion about women's rights. Hence I wrote a blog post about Women's Day. Those days, no one cared about it. So I wrote about it next year too and it felt like I was spreading awareness. 10 year's down the line, how do I feel now?

As they say, "we do not remember days, we remember moments". And what moments do I remember (with a pinch of salt)? I came across an opening which I felt was most suited for my profile. I sent CV to the HR and got a reply saying, "currently we are considering only female candidates; we shall open for men only if we do not get any females (and are tired waiting)". Okay. Then colleagues kept telling how HR would call them and ask them to pass a female candidate even if they wanted to fail them based on skill evaluation. There were weekend recruitment drives conducted "only for women candidates". Not sure if they gave them pink offer letters too. Internally, someone openly mentioned that we needed more female team members. Of course. Every team got a target of having female team members; the more the better. If a female employee resigned, the lead had to be looked with doubtful eyes. HR mentioned "we are equal opportunity employer" and "we want 60% of new recruits to be women" in the same breath. What the heck? That is not even a thin line between equality and favoritism! Baffled, I asked a question to HR "have you tried to see what % of females are in HR department and may be try to recruit more males to give them equal chance"? Of course they won't. "Equality" then becomes just a "gimmick".

Women need equal opportunity. Totally agreed. I am even supportive of opening sectors for them which are traditionally considered unsafe for them. Let them be in Army or Police - there are a lot of brutal women with a stronger heart and harder fists than a regular man has. In all fields, let them compete and if they measure up to the criteria then let them take the job. But then do not "lower the target" for them as that would be called "favoritism". And do not deny chances to competent male applicants as they might need the job as much as your female applicants would. Evaluate them on equal parameters and hire a candidate without caring if one is male or female or in between. That would be called true "equality".

What is happening today in the name of "equality" is plain "favoritism". I am not proud of it. No one should be proud of it.

Hence after all these years, the meaning of "International Women's Day" has changed for me. I no longer want to write a blog post about it (though I know I just did).

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Disclaimer: Views shared are personal and no reference should be read specifically with any of my employers.

#Nature: Two Buffaloes

I was passing through a large herd of buffaloes. All buffaloes went ahead but one small one was standing at a blind turn of the road, looking back and making a sound.... gmmaaaaa... gmmaaaa... Why was she looking back and making a noise?

Then I saw that a bigger buffalo, perhaps her mother, was somehow left much behind from the herd and now having heard the young one, was walking towards her. But the young buffalo was still not satisfied, perhaps she was scared, and hence kept making a noise gmmaaaa... The bigger buffalo was hurrying towards her, also making a sound, as if answering and comforting her...

Very touching...

 - Rahul Tiwary