There are some universal laws which apply so perfectly to the human nature irrespective to the variations in culture or in background. One of them is that we value less what comes easily to us. To some extent we capture it in the Hindi anecdote “Ghar ki murgi daal barabar”. It can also be described by the tendency to undermine self possessions.
This maxim applies to all aspects of our life. What we get after much struggle, feels dear to us. But what we got by chance or by gift, loses its sheen after some time. It also applies to relationships to some extent. Friendships which happened by chance and without any efforts from our side may lose our attraction but for whom we ‘tried’ to reach out, no matter what the outcome, may seem dear to us. In the times of matrimony, if an offer came to us easily or without our efforts, we tend to be casual about it no matter if it was really perfect for us. In matrimony matters many times we realise later on that we had ignored some very good initial offers (we ignored, may be, because they came easily to us). Or a person who got unexpectedly better or superior spouse may also start valuing him/her less because of this very psychology. The sad part is that this tendency only makes our life more difficult because we ignore the true merit in most of the cases and don’t take decisions rationally.
This is why decision making remains the toughest task in any job or in any relationship.
- Rahul
This maxim applies to all aspects of our life. What we get after much struggle, feels dear to us. But what we got by chance or by gift, loses its sheen after some time. It also applies to relationships to some extent. Friendships which happened by chance and without any efforts from our side may lose our attraction but for whom we ‘tried’ to reach out, no matter what the outcome, may seem dear to us. In the times of matrimony, if an offer came to us easily or without our efforts, we tend to be casual about it no matter if it was really perfect for us. In matrimony matters many times we realise later on that we had ignored some very good initial offers (we ignored, may be, because they came easily to us). Or a person who got unexpectedly better or superior spouse may also start valuing him/her less because of this very psychology. The sad part is that this tendency only makes our life more difficult because we ignore the true merit in most of the cases and don’t take decisions rationally.
This is why decision making remains the toughest task in any job or in any relationship.
- Rahul
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