Television actress Kavita Kaushik and her husband Ronnit Biswas have
decided to not have kids (News). While talking to Hindustan Times, the 38-year-old
actress said, " I don't want to be unfair to the child. If I have a child
in my 40s, by the time my child would be 20, we would've touched our old age. I
don't want our child to take care of old parents in his/her 20s. Maybe we are
not maternal and paternal as people. We want to make the world a lighter place
and don't want to bring up a child to this overcrowded city and throw him in
the struggles of Mumbai."
This is one of the most ridiculous excuses one could make for such a
decision. Even by going with her logic; by the time her child would be 20, she
would be in her 60s and people in 60s do not really need old-age care, unless
one is sick. Old age care comes much later. By the time she and her husband would
be really that old when they would need old-age-care, her child would be in his
later 30s and perfectly ripe for being able to take care of old parents.
Going further, this whole logic is not proper. She can’t be sure if she
would have a son or a daughter. If she had a daughter, most probably she would not
need to take care of her parents. In that case, why stop producing a daughter;
very well knowing that the daughter would not be burdened with old-age-care of
her parents? Also, how many rich kids really take care of their parents? We
come across cases of deaths of most celebrities in loneliness and negligence. Kids
of rich people most of the time go settle down in some foreign country and the
old parents remain at home, old-age-home or in a hospital. The servants and
paid agents take care of them to the extent of keeping them just alive so that
they continue getting their salaries but cause them a slow painful death with a
broken heart and soul. When almost no rich kid takes care of their parents
themselves, to hypothetically make such an assumption for her future kid and
then making such an extreme decision is a ridiculous idea.
Most probably, her reasons would be others. Is it that she can’t really
have kids medically and she is just trying to make a cheeky excuse to hide the
real reason? Is it that she just finds making and rearing babies too “inconvenient”?
“Inconvenience” is the reason most modern highly educated families are having
less babies these days. So why hide the real reason?
One of the reasons Kavita Kaushik raises the brow is because of her
gender ceiling-breaking acts on TV. The most famous role she played was of a
female police inspector “Chandramukhi Chautala” from serial: F.I.R. on SAB TV.
Police force is identified with power and masculinity and her role broke many
myths and it felt so proud to see her playing that role. Of course, playing the
role of a police woman she had what we call a “tom boy” image. But with this decision,
she is failing her fans big time. People would now think that girls with “tom
boy” image would grow up not wanting to produce children or do womanly duties. That
may not be true and a lot of other girls may suffer if people start making such
a conclusion.
I would have wished that Kavita Kaushik should have given the real
reason for not having kids; or at least remaining silent on the matter instead
of trying to mislead other women into something which may not be right for them.
- Rahul Tiwary
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