I
was hurried on my way to office and I did not like it when people moved
sideways in the traffic; if they changed lanes or stopped. I wanted all of them
to keep going straight at the fastest speed! The reason why they moved
sideways, changed lanes or stopped was that all were not going where I was
going! Also, not everyone was rushed and hence they need not be that fast! This
is the realization: often we judge others based on our own frame of reference. Everyone
has one’s own path and journey and a speed best suited for one; it need not
match our’s. But we judging from our own frame of reference; call them good or
bad, fast or slow… This causes stress and unhappiness. If we learn to
understand and accept, we shall be at peace with things around us…
At
times we don't understand a problem but try to bring a change. Most of the time
there are genuine reasons why people behave in a particular manner. At times we
can help change the situation and at times we don't. When we can't change the
situation, we can either make noise ourselves or else we can accept the
situation and move on. I was thinking on these lines. I wanted people to behave
in a manner (move fast on road) and I was stressed finding them not behaving in
that manner without knowing the fair reason for their behavior (they had to
change lanes, go diff routes/lanes) and when I knew the reason I became calm
and continued ride without stress...
For
example, if someone shouted at me, I could either shout back and create a mess,
or else I can say "s/he may have some personal reasons to shout; I would
leave him/her at that" and I move on/away. This saves me from lot of
stress... I am sure all of us would have behaved in such sensible manner in the
past; we just have to remain conscious to behave in this manner the next time
we are stressed with something.
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