Impact of Corruption on GDP Growth

A PTI report tells that Government of India has lowered its estimate of GDP growth, from around 9% to 8% now. Pranab Mukherjee says this is due to high oil prices and higher rates of interest done to curb inflation. “If oil prices continue to rise, it would be difficult to achieve higher GDP. GDP may come down to 8 per cent from [the projected] 9 per cent,” Mr. Mukherjee said.

But what no one is bothered about is how large scale corruption in government impacts GDP growth of a nation. I had given a thought on this before and I was certain that as corruption increases, GDP growth of the nation should come down. Also, more corrupt people sending money in Swiss and other foreign banks makes the situation worse too. Reviewing the way our current govt was managing the affairs and the highest than ever corruption cases and scandals coming out in the open, I thought this was going to cost us dear. But I didn’t have empirical data to prove my point. Now, thanks to the US researchers, I have something to fall back on. 

Mushfiq Swaleheen of Florida Gulf Coast University has done a research on exactly this topic of how corruption impacts GDP growth. His study is titled “Economic growth with endogenous corruption: an empirical study”. As such his major discovery was that “In deeply corrupt countries such as Congo, incidences of corrupt practices actually enhance economic growth, perhaps by helping companies sidestep onerous rules.” But that is only at the extreme. I understand India doesn’t fit into that set. But going one step ahead, his finding was really hitting for countries like India: 

“For a country with average endemic corruption, a one-standard-deviation increase in corrupt incidences depresses per-capita GDP growth by 0.12 percentage points.”

Now this is exactly what I used to say, and what logically followed too! And now we have the statistics too! No wonder when our GDP figures would come out next year, and if we see a major debacle, our government and economist ministers will blame it on inflation, higher rates, oil prices, etc, and no one will speak about corruption. But we the public, should understand and think it over. After all, this country doesn’t belong to a Sonia Gandhi or a Pranab Mukherjee alone – this country belongs to all of us! And all of us can make a difference by democratic means too! Awareness is the foundation of any democracy.

- Rahul

SRK is not a Papa Material! Pepsodent Ad Review

You must have watched Pepsodent’s ad featuring Shah Rukh Khan as a father, who encourages his son to brush his teeth along with him. It is called “Pappu and Papa” campaign. 

Pepsodent is a Unilever brand; just like Surf detergent which features many commercials surrounding family and children. The idea I think is to make the brands part of the families, and hence command customer loyalty. Now this Pappu and Papa (P&P) Ad is unique in my opinion. Unique because of the irony in what they thought and what it appears to customers like me… 

Recently I bought a Pepsodent toothpaste and they gave me a free “comic book” with it. Guess the title! It was the same “Pappu and Papa”. Pappu is a teenage boy of around 12, and he goes accidently on a Chocolate Island with his Papa. Of course when you eat lots of chocolates you need toothpaste – and what a better choice than a Pepsodent? But what I couldn’t resist noticing was the graphic images in the comic book. It showed SRK as a father. The lean look; invisible six-pack inside a full sleeve v-neck t-shirt loosely hanging from the neck and shoulders, perhaps worn without a vest inside, the SRK’s shallow cheeks and eyes telling his advance age; hands waxed to remove traces of hair; it is a perfect recipe which comes with SRK now a days. Even in movies, SRK is never able to get into the skin of the character – no matter what the plot is and what kind of a character he is playing, all that the viewers see is the same SRK rather than a King Ashoka or a Squadron Leader Veer Pratap Singh. The same phenomenon is carried even in his ads. Somehow, this SRK doesn’t look like a caring natural dad of a 12 years old boy. But see the irony, the Unilever guys say that SRK was chosen because he was a caring father in his real life! 

Well, at least in India, a typical father doesn’t look like a SRK. On screen, SRK still plays the roles much younger than his self and even in his other commercial ads, SRK is seen flirting with ladies (much younger than his age), and his personality never matches up with a ‘papa’. 

Also, I think just to catch the phrase “Pappu and Papa”, they have kept the name of the child as “Pappu”, which is mostly used now with other connotations (like a victim of a prank, or to be made fun out of). Both Pappu and Papa are bad choices in my opinion – Pappu a bad choice for a name and Papa bad choice in the form of flirting and flaunting, lean and mean SRK. 

The Unilever wanted to send across the message that fathers should spend more time with their children to teach the lessons of hygiene, like daily brushing. I think even this simple message is lost because of the “star cast”. 

All I want to say to the ad-men is that screen life is different from real life. In real life, SRK may be a very good dad, but on screen he doesn’t live up to the character. A model with a personality fitting a genuine father would have been a much better choice. And if all they wanted was to bring SRK so that children could identity Pepsodent with a celebrity, then also I think a Hrithik or an Aamir, could have been a much better choice… 

- Rahul

Brahma, Saraswati and Symbolism

There are lots of prevalent confusions about Hindu gods and goddesses. A majority of those are confusions because absurd interpretations have been repeated for centuries now; while the corrections are few and muted. The righteous becomes introvert; while the empty-vessels keep making sounds – is one eternal law of nature. And when we have had centuries of stagnation, when research on ancient Indian epics became a work for foreign researchers alone while Indians fought to keep ends met, there are bound to be some digressions. These thoughts are coming to me because the topic I have chosen for this post is the relationship between Brahma and Saraswati.

According to a version of the myth, it is said that Brahma, the God of Creation, created Saraswati from his own body and then fell in love with her and also married her. According to many, it amounted to marrying one’s ‘daughter’ and hence this story is made as a point to ridicule our gods. Very plainly, this confusion is because we take our gods like other human beings, with bodies like us, and with passions like us. Much of the philosophy of Sanatan Dharma was explained in Symbolism. We gave our gods human characteristics and wrote stories around them – the purpose was to send the right message to the masses who needed simpler lessons to use in day to day life and not serious philosophies to ponder over. All the confusions happen when we take gods as characters and judge them on our standards, forgetting the symbolism and purpose why the legend was shared. It is the same case with Krishna, it is the same with Indra and in this case, it is the same with Brahma and Saraswati.

I just read a very good article titled “Symbolism and Literalism”, which explains the real symbolism behind the relationship between Brahma and Saraswati. I am presenting a portion of it here:

Brahma is (the name of creative aspect of the Divine) the God of Creation. As Creator, Brahma brought to life Existence itself. Which logically means, he thought of creating the physical world that we perceive through our sense organs and our mind. If you talk about the physical world of shapes and forms you need to give it a definition, or a name or label. This is known as the world of Rupa (Form/Shape) and Nama (Name), both inseparable from each other. In plain language, you look at a tree and your mind can’t be satisfied unless it finds a word (nama) to define it clearly so that when you say “tree” you know exactly what it is without having to actually look at it with your eyes. And this process of defining the physical world lies in the realm of thought. Thought then is expressed through speech.

What follows from this is rather simple. The shapes and forms that Brahma gave to his thoughts became the physical world. When he expressed it in language, it became speech. Which is Saraswathi, his daughter. And which is perfectly in line with Saraswathi worshipped as the Goddess of Speech (or vaak), language, and learning. However, we’re yet to hear of a word which has no meaning at all. As someone said, every word is an idea – it represents something: a thought, an object, anything. In other words, a word cannot be divorced from its meaning. Even in case of names of people – if I say out the name of a person, it conjures up an image or some sort of memory or association related to that person. This meaning is again Saraswathi, now donning the role of Brahma’s wife. As the meaning of the word, Saraswathi is Brahma’s wife just like a wife who stays with her husband for life through good and bad times. This symbolism is pretty much true of all Gods and their wives. As the wife of Vishnu the Preserver of the world, Lakshmi is the Goddess of Wealth. You cannot hope to attain peace and order in the world without prosperity. This then is the symbolism behind Saraswathi as both Brahma’s daughter and wife.

Read full article here:
http://www.sandeepweb.com/2010/03/16/symbolism-and-literalism/

So the confusion ends if we understand the symbolism. I think if we take Brahma’s thoughts on creation and then Saraswati as Speech – she is his daughter. But if we take or Saraswati as meaning/knowledge – she is his wife and consort, because they both always go together.

Here is another explanation:

Brahma is the Lord of creation. The creator must necessarily possess the knowledge to create. Without knowledge no creation is possible. Hence Brahma is said to be wedded to the goddess of knowledge, Saraswati. Brahma and his consort Saraswati, represent the vedas, their spirit and meaning.

Taken from: http://veda.wikidot.com/brahma

Let us also look at the symbolism of both Saraswati and Brahma:

Symbolism of Saraswati

Saraswati represents intelligence, consciousness, cosmic knowledge, creativity, education, enlightenment, music, the arts, eloquence and power. According to Vedanta she is considered to be the feminine energy and knowledge aspect (Shakti) of Brahman, as one of many aspects of Adi Shakti.

• Goddess Saraswati is often depicted as a beautiful woman dressed in pure white often seated on a white lotus, which symbolizes that she is founded in the experience of the Absolute Truth. She is mainly associated with the color white, which signifies the purity of true knowledge.

• She is not adorned heavily with jewels and gold, unlike the goddess Lakshmi, but is dressed modestly — representing her preference of knowledge over worldly material things

• She is generally shown to have four arms, which represent the four aspects of human personality in learning: mind, intellect, alertness, and ego. Alternatively, these four arms also represent the 4 Vedas, the primary sacred books for Hindus.

• She is shown to hold the following in her hands:
• A book, which is the sacred Vedas, representing the universal, divine, eternal, and true knowledge as well as her perfection of the sciences and the scriptures.
• A mālā (rosary) of crystals, representing the power of meditation and spirituality.
• A pot of sacred water, representing creative and purification powers.
• The vina, a musical instrument that represents her perfection of all arts and sciences.

• Saraswati is also associated with anurāga, the love for and rhythm of music which represents all emotions and feelings expressed in speech or music.

• A hansa or swan is often located next to her feet. The sacred bird, if offered a mixture of milk and water, is said to be able to drink the milk alone. It thus symbolizes discrimination between the good and the bad or the eternal and the evanescent. 

• Sometimes a peacock is shown beside the goddess. The peacock represents arrogance and pride over its beauty, and by having a peacock as her mount, the Goddess teaches not to be concerned with external appearance and to be wise regarding the eternal truth.

Taken mainly from: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Saraswati

How wonderful is the symbolism in Saraswati’s representation! All is created to give us a message. If her picture has a peacock besides her or the colour of her saree is white – both mean something serious and enlightening. If we have knowledge of these facts, it would be wonderful, but even if we don’t have knowledge of true symbolism, still we can follow the lessons if we try to follow her.

Now let us see the symbolism behind Lord Brahma:

Symbolism behind Lord Brahma

• Lord Brahma is shown with four hands: Brahmā's four arms represent the four cardinal directions: east, south, west, and north. Also, the back right hand represents mind, the back left hand represents intellect, the front right hand is ego, and the front left hand is self-confidence.

• He is shown to carry a mala or prayer beads. This symbolizes the substances used in the process of creation. It also symbolises meditation.

• He is shown carrying a kamandalu, which represents sanyasa and renunciation (kamandalu is water pot used by sanyasis, men of renunciation).

• He is shown as carrying a book. The book symbolizes the universal, divine, eternal, and true knowledge as well as perfection of the scriptures.

• The Gold. Brahma’s symbol is golden egg or aura. Gold symbolizes activity; the golden face of Brahmā indicates that He is actively involved in the process of creating the Universe.

• The Swan - Brahmā uses the swan as his vāhana, or his carrier or vehicle. The swan is the symbol of grace and discernment. It symbolizes discrimination between the good and the bad or the eternal and the evanescent.

• The Lotus - The lotus represents the reality. Brahma sitting on the lotus indicates that he is ever-rooted in the infinite reality. Reality is the foundation on which his personality rests.

• The Beard - Brahmā's black or white beard denotes wisdom and the eternal process of creation.

• The four faces of Brahma represent the four Vedas. They also symbolise the functioning of the inner personality which consists of thoughts. They are the mind (manas), the intellect (buddhi), ego (ahamkara) and conditioned consciousness (chitta). They represent the four ways in which thoughts function.

• Brahma is also shown riding a chariot drawn by seven swans, representing the seven worlds.

Taken from many websites including:

http://www.iloveulove.com/spirituality/hindu/hindudeities.htm

http://singaporehindutemples.com/hindugod/lordbrahma/lordbrahma.html

There is another confusion. There are not many temples of Brahma on this earth. This has given rise to many myths. Some one says it was because the Asuras (demons) had started worshiping Brahma and hence to mislead them Devs (gods) stopped the practice of Brahma worship and the demons followed it. There can be many others. But the symbolism behind this is as follows:

Why Brahma is not worshipped?

Here is one good explanation:

As creation is the work of the mind and the intellect, Lord Brahma symbolizes the Universal Mind. From the standpoint of an individual, Brahma symbolizes one's own mind and intellect. Since an individual is naturally gifted with the mind and intellect, he or she may be said to have already realized Brahma. For this reason the worship of Brahma is not very popular among all Hindus. He is, however, worshipped by seekers of knowledge, such as students, teachers, scholars and scientists.

Taken from: http://www.iloveulove.com/spirituality/hindu/hindudeities.htm

Another wonderful way of putting it is in the below text:

The true philosophical reason why Brahma is not worshiped like the other deities is as under: Worship involves faith and faith to certain degree means accepting supremacy of someone without questioning. Brahma, on the other hand, represents true knowledge. The knowledge and faith are philosophically antithetical concepts. Knowledge blooms in self-doubt, constant questioning, criticism and discussions and it lapses in faith. Ichnographically,  Brahma  is shown sitting on a blue lotus flower (Pushkara in Sanskrit). Anyone who is familiar with lotus will know that they bloom through a complicated network of root system submerged in the soft mud. This muddy foundation of the Lotus  flower is an artists pictogram of  intellectual ferment.

Ritualistic  worship of Brahma who is an embodiment of the true knowledge, would have been a philosophical contradiction.

Read the full article here:

http://surinusgaonkarsays.sulekha.com/blog/post/2007/01/why-lord-brahma-is-not-worshiped-.htm

I will again borrow Sandeep’s words to put the purpose of symbolism in Hinduism:

There is a reason symbols and myths in Hinduism have an enduring quality about them: they make highly abstract philosophies and concepts readily accessible to us by making them part of our daily life. It’s easier telling a child about the importance of learning by narrating the importance of worshipping Saraswathi than it is to threaten it to “study or else!” Equally, it is easier to explain abstract concepts of thought, words and meanings to a layman using a story than conduct an academic session/seminar.

I think now is the time when we should stop taking things as they are told to us and should go deep and apply our thinking. As I read in one of the above web-links:

Sage Aniruddha in his digest Vrutti (1.26) says:

na hy aaptavacanaan nabhasonipatanti mahaasuraaH |

yuktimad vacanam graahyam mayaanyaishca bhavadvidhaiH ||

(Huge giants do not drop from the skies simply because a competent person/s says so. Only sayings which are supported by reason should be accepted by me and others like yourselves.)

Let us learn lessons from our worship of Goddess Saraswati. Let us learn from meaning of symbolism of Lord Brahma. Let us all be warriors on the path of knowledge and enlightenment…

- Rahul

Failed Prejudices

How we keep some prejudices and how they affect us, can be seen in an experience I had recently.

I had lost my driving license (wallet got stolen in the office) and wanted to file a police report to reissue it. Now I had a feeling that police were corrupt and were better to be avoided. So I kept postponing my visit to them. I had never been to one in my life and didn’t want to either. But every passing week reminded me of my stupidity – what if someone misused my license in the meanwhile? Every morning I would promise myself to pay a visit in the evening and on the evening; I would vow to visit next morning. After stretching it to the end, at last I won over my fears and went to the police station. To my surprise, the police station looked like a typical government office, with all the guys there doing some paperwork. No criminals being beaten and no poor father pleading for his son. The police wallah asked me what the matter was, and asked me to make an affidavit with the advocate next door and then they would do the needful. I got that in 2 days – after spending 300 bucks as a penalty for losing my wallet. I went there again, wondering if the police would ask for a bribe. I took care to keep my mouth shut and hide my fears. I also wondered how “Maharashtra” police would react seeing that my license was “made in Bihar”. (was in Mumbai when “anti-outsider” riots had hit the roads). The guy preparing a certificate for me showed me a bunch of receipts for “flag ceremony” and said, “there are people who feel happy after their work is done; and then they donate some 200-500 rupees for the cause. It goes for the ceremony, not to us”. At last, my fears were right? I felt it was a nice way of extorting bribe; but I kept mum. He finished preparing a certificate, all printed and written in Marathi. I asked gently if there would be any problem if I present that in Bihar? He said, “Marathi and Hindi both are similar; they also have the same script; so don’t worry, they would be able to understand what I have written even there.” No sign of any hatred towards Hindi (or any non-Marathi language). When I got a chance, I pulled myself up and crossed the road asap. No one asked me for any donation for the flag-ceremony.

The visit to the police station had broken many of my prejudices: 1. I thought Police would be corrupt, but they didn’t ask for any bribe; 2. I feared they would be hostile seeing me from “North India”, while they were neutral on that; 3. I thought they would be angry at the matter of “language”, but they actually thought Hindi and Marathi were similar. Also, I thought police station would be some dreadful place while actually it was like any government office. All my prejudices had proven to be wrong…

It’s not that my experience with the police was nice enough to encourage me to go back there again, but it definitely made me shed some of my prejudices. It reminded me something which I often repeat but perhaps didn’t believe 100% in yet - there are all kinds of persons in every land and every profession…

Happy with my failed prejudices…

- Rahul

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Having a company is nice

Watched the movie ‘Up in the Air’ starring George Clooney. His character is a free man who doesn’t believe in marriage or any social commitment. He lives like that for years, dating women whenever he found interest in, and just travelling around the world which was part of his job. At one stage his sister’s to-wed fiancé develops a cold feed the day before their wedding and he was asked to convince the guy. He enters with a clean slate, and managed to find logic. He says something like, “Remember all the best moments in your life. Did you enjoy them alone?” The guys says, “no”. He hits the nail then, “That’s it. All the best moments in our life are enjoyed in someone’s company… It’s nice to have company…” The scared groom had a change of mind and everything turns out well…

That is so true. All things we enjoy in our life have some other people involved in it. Our spouse is that ‘permanent’ company. We are social beings, and having a permanent company and friend gives us emotional strength. On the other side of the coin, we can tend to depend excessively on others for those pleasures of our life. And theoretically there may be things for which we need our ‘space’, but I think there are very few things, if any, which can’t be enjoyed with our companion with us. Purpose of our life is also to learn by having relationships.

- Rahul

Anyone who claims to be an atheist is in fact a believer

Today, I tweeted at my Twitter site http://www.twitter.com/rahulbemba:

Anyone who claims to be an “atheist”; is in fact a “believer”. - Rahul

Someone asked me “how?" Here was my explanation:

If we think, atheism is also a “belief”. The person, who takes care not to believe in the conventional religions or wisdom which are at the end a “pattern”, can also be believing in a “pattern”. His anti-belief is also a belief; his anti-pattern is also a pattern. For example, just like devotees salute in front of the deity as a practice, he makes sure that he doesn’t salute – as a practice too! He thinks he is doing something new, but it is the same old in a different mould.

My own thoughts on this is that we should be free from the dogma, even if we call ourselves religious. Also, I believe we should be free from both pro- and anti- things... We don't have to be opposite of anything, but we should be free from all patterns, even from atheism... As you would observe, anything ending in an "ism" is a pattern, including atheism... Anything which can be described in an "ism", like atheism, is a pattern, and hence has a belief system… This is why I say, those who call themselves atheists, are in fact believers…

- Rahul

Forgive, Forget and Let Go

Got this wonderful forwarded email from a friend:
 

Professor began his class by holding up a glass with some water in it. He held it up for all to see & asked the students “How much do you think this glass weighs?”
 

’50gms!’ ….. ’100gms!’ …..’125gms’ …the students answered.
 

“I really don’t know unless I weigh it,” said the professor, “but, my question is: What would happen if I held it up like this for a few minutes?”
 

‘Nothing’ …..the students said.
 

‘Ok what would happen if I held it up like this for an hour?’ the professor asked.
 

‘Your arm would begin to ache’ said one of the student
 

“You’re right, now what would happen if I held it for a day?”
 

“Your arm could go numb, you might have severe muscle stress & paralysis & have to go to hospital for sure!” ….. ventured another student & all the students laughed
 

“Very good. But during all this, did the weight of the glass change?” asked the professor.
 

‘No’…. Was the answer.
 

“Then what caused the arm ache & the muscle stress?”
 

The students were puzzled.
 

“What should I do now to come out of pain?” asked professor again.
 

“Put the glass down!” said one of the students
 

“Exactly!” said the professor.
 

Life’s problems are something like this. Hold it for a few minutes in your head & they seem OK.
 

Think of them for a long time & they begin to ache. Hold it even longer & they begin to paralyze you. You will not be able to do anything.
 

It’s important to think of the challenges or problems in your life, But EVEN MORE IMPORTANT is to ‘PUT THEM DOWN’ at the end of every day before You go to sleep..
 

That way, you are not stressed, you wake up every day fresh &strong & can handle any issue, any challenge that comes your way!

My Experience with Art of Living Yes+ Course

I recently attended the Art of Living (AOL)’s Yes+ course. YES+ stands for Youth Empowerment and Skills Seminar. I had heard about AOL a long time back when I was in my engineering college. AOL representatives had come to our college and had given a very nice talk. But at that time I had not attended the course because (1) there was a donation involved with it, (2) I thought Yoga and meditation are for old people, and (3) most of my friends had not done it. Now that time has changed and I got to realize my mistake in perceptions, I didn’t miss attending it. This time AOL was conducting sessions very near to my home (as well as our office). At the end of the program, I came out with a rich experience and very useful knowledge.

Yes+ course is designed for the youth (18-30 years). So the program is packed with life-changing thoughts and ideas most applicable for the youth. We had talks on how to make most of life; how to have good relationships; keeping gratitude towards parents; active role in society; and also what kinds of food are the best and why. I liked the scientific manner in which the trainers explained each concept – from why to avoid leather articles, or meat eating, or even tea/coffee. Youth are at very inquisitive stage but the knowledgeable trainers could clearly satisfy all the queries. Along with the talks which were mostly demonstrated with performing some practical exercise or tasks, we learnt many enlightening Yoga techniques. Most of the participants had wonderful experiences with the Yoga session.

The powerful spiritual flow into the content was really amazing. (I am not sharing much of the activities otherwise it may subdue the surprise element in newcomers.) Every day we were given some very interesting home-works. We also had Q&A sessions with the trainers in which we could ask them any doubts in our mind. I also loved the way trainers answered some controversial questions. They were also very much supportive of other Gurus, like Baba Ramdev. It was heartening to realize that the AOL guys practice what they preach. No surprise that when our teacher shared his own life story and his journey to AOL, all of us were touched. On the last day, we also ran through some videos introducing us to the world of Art of Living.

What an enlightening experience it has been. It ran for 6 days – first 4 days for us were in the evenings and then two long sessions ran on the weekends. I found the organization and structure of the training simply brilliant. Given that so many highly qualified and successful guys from top universities are part of AOL, it came as no surprise. Another aspect of the course was that we came to know so many nice individuals (as participants) – who are now good friends.

You can check these websites: http://www.yesplus.org/ and http://www.artofliving.org/yes-plus 

We were informed that advance Yes+ course is being organized soon in Bangalore. Hope to attend it someday. Till then, I have to maintain and improve on the Yogic path shown by AOL. AOL also conducts many other courses for people of all ages. I highly recommend the AOL courses for each one of us…

With heartfelt thanks to AOL and trainers,

Jai Gurudev!

Rahul

 

Good Food - A Bachelor’s Delight and a Nightmare

Though a bachelor’s life has theoretically some fun, for me it became a nightmare because of one factor: food. In those days, it seemed good homemade food was no less than a panacea. This is why one of the nicest and toughest memories of each phase of my single life has been none other than related to food. While I was in Lucknow preparing for IIT-JEE, I would often go to the nearest roadside vendor, eat whatever came in the name of roti/puri and rush back to study a little more. No wonder, health had never been a concern before that time. When in  engg college, one soul cleansing act was to go to the road side again and eat hot doodh-roti in a bowl. If there were no road side vendors, not many students would have become engineers I guess. In Mumbai, I became fan of big size samosas and for the first time got habitual to poha and kachori. When I recall my single life, it seems I was always starving. And good homemade food was such a hard catch!

Given the background, it became clear to me after one or two episodes that if someone offered me good homemade food, s/he was basically buying my soul. There was a lady blogger who posted a blog with some pictures of her delicious dishes. When I complimented her, she promised to offer me a sumptuous lunch if we ever met. The feeling in my heart was of boundless gratitude and humbleness. Anyone who made me have a homemade food was kind of buying a part of me. Then I also grew uncomfortable and shy receiving the kindness; but the luring of good food was always victorious. And at times this luring turned out to be nightmare…

I still remember that day clearly. During my MBA days I had not visited home for many months. I felt homesick each day. One morning, when I opened the door for some visitor, I found a lady, perhaps someone’s housemaid, distributing sweets which had come along with a new bride. Now at home, mother would always be cautious against we eating anything that came from the outside. But here, I was all alone. The sweet was basically bundi, which brought back memories from the childhood. It was years after which I could eat that sweet; so I finished it in 2 minutes… Perhaps I was not meant to be happy that day, so just in a while I suffered from acute diarrhoea. The memory of that day still brings tears to my eyes. Starved of home made food and homesick for anything which could remind me of home, I got some sweets reaching me by chance; but those made me sick… This did repeat many times afterwards also; as bachelorhood was a curse indeed…

I am so grateful to God that I got a wife who loves cooking :) I am not ashamed to say that the nicest memories of we together has some food made by her as inseparable part. This is why I am a strong believer that women should always know how to cook: that may mean a lot to many, but it is lifesaving for people like me. Still, whenever wife is not with me and I have to rely on restaurants, I face some hard time preserving my health. If I find something delicious, it would upset my stomach; and all digestible things seem to be coarse and tasteless. And then I know I am hiding a sin: if I took interest and learnt how to cook, perhaps I won’t have faced this much hardship. But then I won’t have had so many memories to go back into too!

Have a happy dinnertime!

- Rahul

My Wordpress Blog: Rahul Reads

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It is another micro-blog from this Blogger.com blog, based on my book reviews.

Is new prosperity creating raw deals for some working women?

Rukmini was a girl who grew up under fond encouragement of her parents. She grew up with a dream in her eyes – to be financially independent and to work and make use of her eduction. She saw her dream come true when she got a partner after marriage who allowed her to pursue her career. She cherished her first salary which she donated in total to an old-age home. Within a few years, her businessman husband got it all coming in his ways and achieved a grand success. His business thrived on a web based business model and the influx of high earning young population. And then, he asked his wife to quit her job and “look after the children”.

Rukmini had to quit her job. She had a Hobson’s choice between her family and her job.

This story is a quite real; it is happening behind the walls of 3/4BHK flats in high-rise Indian Metros. And the factor responsible for this trend is: high economic growth and the tremendous opportunities created by it.

I wonder if India’s high GDP growth and the new economic successes are creating raw deals for some women. Just a decade earlier, it was thought that both husband-wife working was a necessity to survive. With salaries for highly educated professionals and profits of successful new-age entrepreneurs going beyond the roof, this is not true anymore. And when it comes to re-prioritizing, it is mostly women who are asked to stay back at home and raise the children.

Indeed, this trend is one flip side to India’s growth story…

- Rahul

Article Published: 10 Reasons Why Airline Industry Is Unique

My article titled “10 Reasons Why Airline Industry Is Unique” is now published on MBASkool.com. Here is the link:

http://www.mbaskool.com/business-articles/marketing/207-ten-reasons-why-airline-industry-is-unique.html

In this article, I have tried to analyze how the airline industry is so unique, covering the business model, government interventions, profitability, safety concerns and a host of other factors. The inspiration for the analysis and report was a quote from Richard Branson. When asked how to become a Millionaire, Richard Branson said, “You start off as a Billionaire and then open an Airline.” I found this funny, but at the same time it was so true!

Read this article to know more…

Regards,

Rahul

Role of Expression in Parent Child Relationship

Have you seen your parents cry?

I guess you may not have seen it many times. But how would be the feeling? I guess that would take the world out of you…

Does it happen the same way when parents see their children cry?

Do they get a sinking feeling when they see their children cry? Do they see the world collapse in front of their stoned eyes; do they feel something as if bursting out in their hearts? I guess we would answer in the negation. They must not feel so deeply every time they see their children cry. After all, they are grownups. They are mature, have seen life and are not easily shaken. But even then there should be times and situations when no matter how much they have seen life, all would seem trivial; when no matter how grownup they are they would feel helpless in front of the situation. I hope you would agree with me. In those situations, what do you think - would their pain and grief be graver than ours? I think it is difficult to answer, though the pointer would be tilted towards “yes”.

I think we take expression too seriously. If we love someone, we are taught that we should express so. If we like someone, we should tell him or her how much they are for us. After some time, we tend to think “seriously” that expression is a necessary indication of what goes inside our heart. It may not always be so! And this is where I find connect with my example of parent-child pain situation.

If parents start expressing all their pains, problems and objections, I think our life would become very depressed. On the other hand, though we would always love to see them express their happiness, pleasure and applause, this knowledge can also make us over confident, relaxed and uncaring in extreme situations. Therefore, I think “trust” is an immensely important ingredient in a parent-child relationship. Though it is important in all other relationships too, it plays a very critical role in parent-child relationship because when children grow up and become laden with responsibilities while parents become old and non-contributing in worldly matters, the dynamics of relationship changes. A “trust” between them makes them perceive, imagine, empathize and feel more than simply react according to the expressions of the other.

I think expression is important, but not always necessary. It is good, but its absence is not always bad. A trustful relationship based on mutual empathy would turn the silence into another language of expression…

- Rahul