Life Story: Stale Food Syndrome

 

Although he does not try to remember the past moments from his marital life, sometimes a few incidents naturally popup in his mind. For example, an incident suddenly flashed in his mind today.

He and his wife were traveling on a short vacation to another city. Since journey plans were made on a short notice and it was just over-night journey, they had booked bus tickets in AC Sleeper category. While making the plan, it never came into their mind that she suffered from a tendency to vomit while traveling on road. Sometime after the journey began, she mentioned that she was feeling a bit uneasy, so he suggested her to carry a polybag in her hand so that it could come handy any moment. But she ignored the advice and said that she would be fine. Just 5 minutes past that conversation, she suddenly vomited directly on his trousers! He was disgusted and furious! He was not furious just because she vomited on him, He was furious because she had ignored his advice and then vomited on him. She managed to bring things in order and did not say anything, after all it was her mistake. But what happened next day was an epic act.

Next day, while they were having lunch, she offered last evening’s vegetable dish to him and asked if he would like to have a bit of that in order to help finish it. He took it readily. And that dish was stale! He ended up with a very bad case of diarrhea immediately after lunch. She had good talent and knowledge of food, so she would know that it was stale. After a few days he had wondered if she did it on purpose. There was no means to know for sure; and he did not say anything about it later. But another time and place, it was not so subtle.

Once at home, she took out some sweets from the refrigerator and started to eat. But as soon as she took it in her mouth, she threw it saying that the sweet had gone stale. He heard that. Then she went to the other room. But she returned soon. She took out some of the same sweet from the refrigerator, came up to him and asked if he would like to have some sweets! He was shocked! He told her calmly that he had heard her saying that the sweet had become stale, so was she trying to make him sick again by asking him to eat it? She did not respond and just left the scene. 

At that time, he had wondered why his wife hated him so much. What kind of wife would purposefully give stale food to her husband to cause him food-poisoning? What did he do to deserve this? But these were questions to ponder only once. Now he knows about things for sure. His wife did not need a reason to hate him. And he did not do anything to deserve this. Not all wives are meant to love their husbands and not all husbands get to get a good wife. It is as simple as that. 

- Rahul Tiwary

Ways in Which Tradespersons Like Plumbers, Carpenters, Masons, Contractors, etc. Can Cheat You

 

Tradespersons like plumbers, carpenters, masons, contractors, etc. work in the ‘unorganized sector’. They do not work under any structured law; they do not always give you money receipts and they do not give any income taxes to the government too. Most of such unorganized worker class come under a shadow economy leading to “black money” circulations (No wonder such workers were most impacted by Indian government’s ‘demonetization of a few currency notes in the year 2016). But there is a worst problem while dealing with them – they can cheat you!

There are several ways such workmen can cheat you because they do not work for you under any written terms or a contract. There is no law guiding their working hours or the wages. They can simply go back on their words and turn your plans upside down. And believe me, when it comes to arguing, or fighting, you will never be able to match them. So, in a way, you should be fully prepared for a “messy situation” if you start any such work.

So, what are the ways in which vendors like plumbers, carpenters, masons, contractors can cheat home owners?

1. Quote high: They can simply quote a higher price from you in case they sense that you are giving work to them based on trust or because of a personal reference. Basically, if they sense that they are under “monopoly” situation, they would charge you more. Therefore, it is always necessary to consult multiple vendors before giving work to anyone,
2. Revising the quote: They can give you a lower quote to get the work and later on near the end of the work, they can claim some cost-over runs or some increase in scope of work and insist that you must pay them higher. This is a trick which allows them win the work contract, because their quote would appear cheapest at the stage where you would be comparing the quote with other vendors. And they can inflate the bill later on, citing n number of reasons.
3. Over-promise and under deliver: They can make high promises about work to get to start the work and later on they can cite many excuses why the promises can not be met. To avoid this scenario, you need to go into details before awarding the work to them, to judge if they are making false promises. This will of course be a hassle especially if you are not experienced with such kind of work.
4. Delay the work due to picking up other work: They can promise a timeline and later breach it because they would have grabbed some other work in between. They may do the other work by making breaks into your work, or they can even work simultaneously by cutting your working hours.
5. Inflate material cost: If you are giving them the responsibility to bring material too apart from execution of the work, they may inflate the bill with a huge margin by either plain cheating, or by buying materials of higher prices/margins from their preferred suppliers.
6. Slow work under daily wage: If you hire the workmen on daily wages, they may start the work fine so that your initial impression is good and gradually they can just choose to reduce the pace of work in order to do the same work in longer duration and hence earn more wages at your expense.
7. Stop the work: They can simply stop working especially near the end of the work if you have already given large part of their wages to them in advance and they may come back to finish the work as per their convenience after a break. They would have taken up some other work or personal things in between while keeping you in dark.
8. Quarrel game: They can simply go back on their promises and pick up a fight with you with aggressive gestures if they get to feel that you won’t be able to fight back or if they feel they can get away bullying you. Although it would feel that this scenario is unlikely, but if you think, there would many such instances; e.g. rickshaw-wallahs pick up even physical fights with passengers very often.

Due to all these hassles, getting work done through such vendors may be a too risky job, unless you are a ‘tough nut’ yourself.

Due to such hassles, a demand has arisen for professional services providers who do the work under written terms and conditions. They have a website, written policies, would work under written terms and they run a registered company. But, as of now such companies are few and far between. Plus, they charge almost the double for the same work. It is still cheapest and simplest option to directly call the workmen and get the job done. But all you need is someone you can “trust”. If you have found such workmen you can “trust”, you are lucky. Personally, I have come across several such workmen who work under strict work ethics and they never try to cheat you. Perhaps for such people the phrase “work is worship” was coined.

Until the time professional service providers match the expectations of customers, home owners will remain at the mercy of the tribesmen like carpenters and masons. And we can be sure that there will be plenty of breaches of trust and conflict situations under the carpet of our national economy for a long time to come. All we can do is to avoid some and fight some. There is no other way.

- Rahul Tiwary

Lesson from ATM Experience: Follow the Herd

 

In India, we mostly use ATM (automatic teller machine) to withdraw cash from our bank accounts. We often need to know where the ATMs are installed where we live so that at the time of need we save the hassle. This incident I am going to describe is from yesterday.

I was at an unfamiliar place using that ATM station for the first time. It had three ATMs inside a room, out of which one was just in front of the entrance door and two were on its left side. While approaching it, I noticed that two men before me went to the third ATM which was farthest from the entrance. I wondered why they left the nearest ATM and went to the farthest. I thought that maybe they did it to ensure privacy, since people from outside the ATM station would be able to see how much cash they withdrew if they did it from the machine near the door. Or maybe they did it because the nearest two machines were not in working condition. But I was ready for any adventure and hence I did not “follow the herd”. I went to the first machine right in front of the door.

I had to withdraw Rs 20,000 and when we are using a machine of any other bank apart from our own bank, we have to withdraw in installments of Rs 10,000 at one go. So, I provided all inputs to withdrew Rs 10K from the machine and waited. Its cash slot opened, it made some unexpected noise, and then it abruptly ‘threw’ currency notes outside with a force! In a few moments, it stopped still. Worried, I picked up some fallen notes and wondered if those were really “all”. I tried to pull out my debit card, but the machine won’t let it go! Now I counted the currency notes and those were less than Rs 10K! But after a few moments, the cash slot opened again and once again it ‘threw’ a few other currency notes and closed abruptly. It also released my debit card for me to collect. Now that the ordeal was over, I counted the amount and it was alright.

Since I had to withdraw another 10K, I decided not to trust the same faulty machine again. So, I moved to the next machine, still avoiding the third machine which the ‘herd wisdom’ was asking me to go to. I withdrew 10K and the second machine which I was using released 10 currency notes of Rs 100! New machine, new adventure! I was not sure if it was my fingers which slipped or the buttons of the machine which did not obey me well. Anyways, now tired of my adventures, I went to the third ATM which was the one where herd wisdom had asked me to go in the first place.

As soon as I started pressing buttons for withdrawing from the third machine, I noticed the difference. The screen was working perfectly, the buttons were working very smooth. Since the ATMs are used by the masses, we are all used to expecting not-so-smooth experiences. But this third machine was working like a machine from heaven! It gave me exactly what I asked it for, and did not attach any adventure along with the “package” (of experience).

After coming out of the ATM station, I felt relieved. What was interesting in this ordeal is that I disobeyed the ‘herd wisdom’ purposefully and I was punished for my decision very promptly. I went in with brave face, ready to face the unexpected and I was served well! I can’t complain.

Perhaps this is how society learns to avoid taking risks and does not buy ‘adventures’. An inefficient and faulty system creates more ripples in the minds of the society than we can see. It changes our behavior and forces us to think and plan in a certain pattern. Technology is supposed to be a great leveler. But, combine it with an inefficient system and a society which does not seek perfection, and you have a series of ‘adventures’ to look forward to.

- Rahul Tiwary

वैदिक घड़ी

 आइए आपको वैदिक घड़ी के माध्यम से हिंदुत्व की जड़ों से जोड़ते है।

◆ 12:00 बजने के स्थान पर आदित्या: लिखा हुआ है, जिसका अर्थ यह है कि सूर्य 12 प्रकार के होते हैं : अंशुमान,अर्यमन, इंद्र, त्वष्टा, धातु, पर्जन्य, पूषा, भग, मित्र, वरुण, विवस्वान और विष्णु।

◆ 1:00 बजने के स्थान पर ब्रह्म लिखा हुआ है, इसका अर्थ यह है कि ब्रह्म एक ही प्रकार का होता है : एको ब्रह्म द्वितीयो नास्ति।

◆ 2:00 बजने की स्थान पर अश्विनौ लिखा हुआ है जिसका तात्पर्य यह है कि अश्विनी कुमार दो हैं।

◆ 3:00 बजने के स्थान पर त्रिगुणा: लिखा हुआ है, जिसका तात्पर्य यह है कि गुण तीन प्रकार के हैं : सतोगुण, रजोगुण और तमोगुण।

◆ 4:00 बजने के स्थान पर चतुर्वेदा: लिखा हुआ है, जिसका तात्पर्य यह है कि वेद चार प्रकार के होते हैं : ऋग्वेद, यजुर्वेद, सामवेद और अथर्ववेद।

◆ 5:00 बजने के स्थान पर पंचप्राणा: लिखा हुआ है, जिसका तात्पर्य है कि प्राण पांच प्रकार के होते हैं : अपान, समान, प्राण, उदान और व्यान।

◆ 6:00 बजने के स्थान पर षड्र्सा: लिखा हुआ है, इसका तात्पर्य है कि रस 6 प्रकार के होते हैं : मधुर, अमल, लवण, कटु, तिक्त और कसाय।

◆ 7:00 बजे के स्थान पर सप्तर्षय: लिखा हुआ है इसका तात्पर्य है कि सप्त ऋषि 7 हुए हैं : कश्यप, अत्रि, भारद्वाज, विश्वामित्र, गौतम, जमदग्नि और वशिष्ठ।

◆ 8:00 बजने के स्थान पर अष्ट सिद्धिय: लिखा हुआ है इसका तात्पर्य है कि सिद्धियां आठ प्रकार की होती है : अणिमा, महिमा, लघिमा, गरिमा, प्राप्ति, प्राकाम्य, इशित्व और वशित्व।

◆ 9:00 बजने के स्थान पर नव द्रव्याणि लिखा हुआ है इसका तात्पर्य है कि 9 प्रकार की निधियां होती हैं : पद्म, महापद्म, नील, शंख, मुकुंद, नंद, मकर, कच्छप, खर्व।

◆ 10:00 बजने के स्थान पर दशदिशः लिखा हुआ है, इसका तात्पर्य है कि दिशाएं 10 होती है : पूर्व, पश्चिम, उत्तर, दक्षिण, ईशान, नैऋत्य, वायव्य, आग्नेय, आकाश, पाताल।

◆ 11:00 बजने के स्थान पर रुद्रा: लिखा हुआ है, इसका तात्पर्य है कि रुद्र 11 प्रकार के हुए हैं : कपाली, पिंगल, भीम, विरुपाक्ष, विलोहित, शास्ता, अजपाद, अहिर्बुध्न्य, शम्भु, चण्ड और भव।

सनातन धर्म में प्रत्येक वस्तु कुछ न कुछ अवश्य सिखाती है। 

जय भारत!

श्रोत

Steve Jobs

 

I recently watched the movie ‘Jobs’ which is a biopic made on the life of Steve Jobs, the co-founder of Apple Computer.

Ashton Kutcher was a good choice for playing the character of Steve Jobs, as he resembled him physically too well. Only, when he tried to ape the way Jobs walked, it looked a bit artificial.  Surprisingly, all other characters in the movie were also casted very well and closely resembled the real people they played. I wish the movie captured a bit of Steve’s childhood and other struggles. And some events in the movie were just touched upon, after all, there was too much to cover. Overall, it is a fantastic movie and  real tribute to the legendary Steve Jobs.

There are a few episodes in the life of Steve Jobs which can shock us. 

First, very few people know that Steve Jobs was actually adopted. His biological father was an Arab Muslim man from Syria who met Steve’s mother when he was a teaching assistant in a college. His mother gave away Steve Jobs to a couple for adoption. Then she fought a case to take away the young Steve and give him to another couple for adoption. The woman who adopted Steve was scared of loving him because she thought he would be taken away from her. This fact that he was adopted and his real parents gave him away to another couple must have affected his psychology.

Secondly, at the time of parenthood, he suspected that his girlfriend had become pregnant because of some other friend and hence denied paternity. After he accused her, his girlfriend broke their relationship, moved out of their shared house and supported herself by cleaning houses. This shocking incident happened for real and in the movie, Jobs is shown as being very insensitive in this part. But Steve Jobs reunited with her and accepted his daughter when she was 9-year-old. As inheritance, he also gave away large part of his wealth to his daughter. You can read about his daughter here.

If we relate the above two incidents, we can clearly see that just like Steve Jobs biological parents “disowned” him, he also tried to disown his daughter, although under a different pretext. But finally humanity won and he reconciled with his daughter and gave her a normal childhood.

Another interesting stuff about Steve Jobs is that he traveled to India seeking spiritualism and spent 7 months here. The movie captures some scenes from India and it felt nice.

Steve Jobs was considered a perfectionist and hard task master and I liked many of his attributes even though those would appear insensitive to most.

The movie also has some powerful dialogues:

• I’m not dismissing the value of higher education; I’m simply saying it comes at the expense of experience.
• How does somebody know what they want if they haven’t even seen it?
• I would rather gamble on our vision than make a ‘me, too’ product.
• We’ve got to make the small things unforgettable.
• Here's to the crazy ones. The misfits. The rebels. The trouble-makers. The round pegs in the square holes. The ones who see things differently…they change things. They push the human race forward. And while some may see them as the crazy ones, we see genius.
• Because the people who are crazy enough to think they can change the world, are the ones who do.
• We're gonna put a dent in the universe.

It is also interesting to know that while Steve Jobs talked about changing the world and impacting the lives of people, his company raised the price of its products to exorbitant levels after his death, making iPhones a niche product only to be owned by the rich. We can also see that no new innovative products are coming out of Apply Inc, after Steve Jobs passed away. It rather seems that the “investors” or “board” have overtaken Apple once again, the same folks who had thrown Jobs out of the company he had himself founded.

People like Steve Jobs and Bill Gates (whom I idolized during growing up days) are the inspirations we need to find meaning in life.

Hats off to Steve Jobs.

- Rahul Tiwary

Why Ugly Actors are Considered Better Actors by Society

If the title of this blog post did not shock you, the main body will try to put up some challenge. I will come straight to the point: There is a tribe which is growing stronger by the day which considers ugliness as a proof of better acting skills in Show Business (movies). If you have not thought about it before, you would find it difficult to digest it immediately. But go on and recall some of the actors who are "popularly" considered “best” of Bollywood in terms of "acting skills":

1. Om Puri
2. Irrfan Khan
3. Nawazuddin Siddiqui
4. Rajkummar Rao (Yadav)

All of these have been ugly.

Om Puri did most of his acting through his excellent (’manly’) voice while his measles’s scar ridden face looked the same all the time.

Irrfan Khan, with his swollen eyes as if he was awake whole night smoking or floating on drugs, gave same expression no matter what the movie. For example, just look at his face when he is playing a bandit in 'Pan Singh Tomar' Vs when he was playing an aspirational middle class man in 'Hindi Medium' or a Christian old man in 'The Lunchbox':

Irrfan Khan has always been hyped so much, but I wonder if he ever played a “character” he was expected to. I always find him “playing  Irrfan Khan” in each movie. When he played a bandit, he did not look like a real bandit but he looked like “Irrfan Khan in the role of a bandit”. In The Lunchbox when he played the role of a man reaching 60, he just looked like a “poorer and older Irrfan Khan”. I wonder why there has been so much “hype” about his acting skills. 

Out of these four, I like Nawazuddin Siddiqui most, because he seldom played the role of a lead character. Most of the time he plays role of a criminal, a thug, an evil man or a poor homeless man, because that is how he looks. At least he does justice with the looks he got and does not try to cheat himself or others. I like him because if he is ugly, he does not deny it. 

Now coming to Rajkummar Rao whom I dislike most, because he always does makeup, excessive hairstyling, etc as attempt to hide his ugliness. And he always gets mainstream actor roles despite being a totally misfit person for such roles. He has a “joker like” face, especially when he smiles. 

Forget about lead roles, he does not even fit into the comic roles in any of the movies he works in. In songs, he can’t lip sync well and looks so artificial. He can't dance well too. It is a pity to see our movie industry go down to the level where it can’t even fit actors into roles properly. I don't know how he gets so many roles in movies one after the other, while everyone knows that if he is in a movie, it means that the movie was made on a low budget and the producers expected it to do just "okay" kind of business.  

Social Bias

I am not alone who thinks that there is a social bias which considers ugly actors as "better actors" and makes people judge actors unfairly. You can check this Quora thread, for example: Are ugly actors/actresses better than attractive ones?. 

Due to the prevailing social bias, other talented actors have suffered since despite being more talented than these ugly actors, they did not get the same amount of press coverage. 

1. Anupam Kher
2. Manoj Bajpai
3. Pankaj Tripathi
4. Ayushmann Khurrana

I will pitch one great and good looking actor of my choice against each of the ones listed above: As per my opinion, in terms of acting skills:

• Anupam Kher > Om Puri
• Manoj Bajpai > Irrfan Khan
• Pankaj Tripathi > Nawazuddin Siddiqui
• Ayushmann Khurrana > Rajkummar Rao 

Manoj Bajpai could have played each of the roles Irrfan Khan played and would have aced those. Pankaj Tripathi could have aced all the gangster roles Nawazuddin Siddiqui played. And Ayushmann Khurrana could have done much better justice with all the roles that Rajkummar Rao (Yadav) has ever spoiled. 

This trend is not only seen among male actors. Even among actresses, we have cases like much hyped Konkana Sen Sharma who is not good looking but was always considered goddess of acting skills.

I do not think that beauty or handsomeness is a sign of acting skill, or that ugly actors are by design inferior to handsome actors in any way. I can’t be biased while attacking other people’s bias. All that I want to say is that main leads in our movies should be played by mainstream actors. The actors I listed above under “ugly actors” list did not deserve to play the lead roles in mainstream movies. One Irrfan Khan in an offbeat movie like The Lunchbox would be totally fine. But a Rajkumar Rao  won’t fit into a hip video song like this one. If a Rajkumar Rao Yadav can be the face of Honey Singh's song, then the song died long back and what we are hearing is its wretched ghost.

Bollywood's definition of charisma died the moment above movie scene was shot. Whoever casted this guy in this role should be sent to Africa to live in some tribal area without signs of civilization. 

God, bring back my Hrithik, Salman, Ayushmann and Aditya Roy Kapur. 

Only the best of Bollywood can compete with the best of Hollywood!  

- Rahul Tiwary 

Some Bollywood Movies

‘Houseful 4’: A hilarious movie which is a laughter-overdose 

‘Total Dhamal’: Except the last climax scene with animals in a zoo, rest of the movie comes out surprisingly as the best of Bollywood masala comedy 

‘De De Pyar De’: An overall entertaining movie made on a sensitive topic and surprisingly it treads the tight rope very well.

 

‘Laal Rang’: A movie which could have been a cult movie for generations to come because of an epic role played by Randeep Hooda, but due to excessive focus on blood bank business, it bores at moments due to too much details. But this will always be in the memory of Randeep Hooda fans like me due to an extremely powerful role played by him

‘Sanju’: Undoubtedly this was an immortal role played by Ranbir Kapoor, but the movie comes out boring in many segments because of the over-exposure to Sanjay Dutt’s life which viewers have already got through media and hence the picturization looks fictional

‘Tanhaji’: A very well made and memorable movie with brilliant performances, which feels slow at many places due to lack of diversity in content

- Rahul Tiwary

Heart of a Cult

 

A few years back, I had met an aged person who was a member of one of the spiritual cults that got a spiritual mother and falls under the umbrella of Hinduism. He had tried to persuade me to join his cult, telling me about its benefits and I remember that he had also criticized our original Hindu gods. I had not shown interest and was not in touch with him after that. Recently when he met me after a long time, he once again started telling me about how his spiritual cult changes a person and gives him powers. I just listened to him and wished he stopped talking. Then, half out of my sheer curiosity and half with intent to ‘change the topic’, I asked him abruptly about what was his and his organization’s opinion about actor Sushant Singh Rajput’s death. I was curious to hear his answer, since I wanted to explore how he would think about the topic. What he said, shocked and disappointed me at the same time.

The man immediately blamed Sushant for being immoral (because he has had multiple girlfriends without marriage), being a druggist (even though we do not know whole truth about drug angle in his death yet), and declared while sitting on a higher pedestal, “God is not a fool that He would help such immoral and corrupt men”.

On the surface, it seemed that he had got a good point. Why should God help bad people? But then, how are so many bad people winning in this world? Are they winning without God’s help or without God’s wish? And if God does not help bad people and God would help only good people, then why are so many good people in distress? Therefore, this high pedestal declaration that God did not help Sushant because Sushant was not a moral person, did not make sense.

What I was really interested in, was to understand how the brain of a member of a spiritual cult would work on a popular but controversial topic. The way our old man blamed Sushant for his tragic death, was too harsh. I could not see any empathy in his words or expressions. I found him too egoistic and his ego had caused him to blame Sushant for being non-confirmative by having multiple girlfriends or taking drugs. He did not see Sushant as a human, otherwise he would have tried to go to the next level to understand why Sushant had multiple girlfriends, or why he took drugs. If we see people as humans, we do not blame them for being what they are. People are often victims of circumstances or surroundings and it is not entirely their fault. We give others benefits of doubts too, because we know that humans make mistakes.

Afterwards, I wondered what was the use of being part of a spiritual cult if you couldn’t see a person beyond his deeds? How did the spirituality fail to change you when you couldn’t go beyond the first layer of a person’s psyche? What is the use of being able to explain spiritual concepts of your cult, but when it comes to judge others, you still resort to savagely throwing stones at sinners?

With bits of disappointment, I moved on. Our talkative man never asked me for my opinion and hence I did not get chance to share it with him. But perhaps it was better for him that he remained in his make-belief world where his spiritual mother would cure him of all his sins and send his soul to some sort of a paradise. Perhaps not all men are meant to be men of reason. Some are meant to be men of religion. In their own ways.  

- Rahul Tiwary

Cat Fight

 

The other day, I was hearing the noise of some cats and hence went out to see what was happening. I was startled to see two cats ready for a fight! There was a totally black cat in an aggressive pose standing in front of a white cat who was equally aggressive and standing just in front of the black cat’s nose. Both cats were in similar poses, with only their tails moving while their bodies were stiff. It seemed as if both would start a fight any moment. The totally black cat was slightly bigger in size as compared to the white cat, but neither of them were males, since both were slender in looks and not really big size like the male cats usually are. Both cats were making loud noises perhaps to challenge or threaten each other. I tolerated the scene for some time but then decided to end their prospective fight.

I brought a mug of water and threw it near to the place where they were standing, expecting the cats to run away and hence leave each other to safety. To my horror, as soon as water hit the ground, the cats attacked each other and there was a puff of white fur up in the air, clearly telling that the black cat had won that round! Then I noticed that the black cat had its paw in the face of the white cat and she was not leaving her! With my plan gone horribly wrong, I was perturbed and saddened. All I wanted was to make them leave each other, and here, they fought because of my action! I remembered the numerous movies in which two men would be pointing guns at each other and watching the other person’s move, and any sudden movement or noise would make them shoot! Being a movie buff, how could I forget it that something like this could happen even with cats!

The cats remained in same aggressive pose for quite some time. After a while when I went to check them out, I saw them still aggressively standing in front of each other, but there was no actual fight happening. My heart sank further with guilt. After a while, the white cat tended to sit down after folding her rear legs, while still giving aggressive gaze to the black cat. Now it seemed more than likely that the cats could have continued to give each other a scary gaze without actually fighting, and only because of my childish water throwing feat, they ended up fighting. I felt sorry for the white cat which got her face and fur injury because of my action.

Not to mention that this incident made me sad and I raked with guilt for a long time. This was one Cat Fight I was personally responsible for; and no matter how Micky Mouse would see me, I am not proud of it.

- Rahul Tiwary

Baba Ka Dhaba and Social Media’s Recipe of Controversy

 

If you are on social media, you must have heard about ‘Baba Ka Dhaba’. An old couple running a roadside eatery were not able to meet the ends because of lack of sales in the post-Covid scenario. Someone made their video where the old man was crying and telling his plight and posted it on social media. The video went viral, caught everyone’s attention because of its humanitarian aspect and soon a large crowd started gathering at his eatery for food. Media persons from all major TV News channels also bought food from there and gave much coverage to the old couple. Time passed, and the news started fading. But now there has been a new controversy.

The old man who runs Baba Ka Dhaba has filed a police complaint accusing the person who made his original video, accusing him of collecting huge funds in his own bank account, while pretending to be collecting the funds as donation to the old couple. You can read about it here. If this is true, then this incident tells very negatively about the “power of social media”.

It seems social media is going the ‘mainstream media’ way. In fact, where ever there is money involved, things tend to go astray. Selfishness, greed and ambition are traits which have corrupted many people. Social media influencers who have monetized their platforms, i.e. who earn something from their social media activity and accounts, have lost credibility and often behave in unethical manners.

I remember the days when I started writing and I started blogging in order to share my writing. The time around year 2006-07 were initial days of social media in India. In those days, no one took to social media or blogging for “money”. But things changed quickly.

Today, most big social media accounts earn money by posting stuff. For example, there are product review sites who take money from brands and write positive reviews about those. There are financial education sites which show favorable inclination towards companies and earn passive income. Then there are digital influencers who host ads on their platform and earn money by programs like Google Ad Sense. Not everything, but a lot of things are up “for sale”.

I wish people used social media as a hobby or passion but never as a profession. I am skeptic towards those social media influencers who earn money in some way or the other. I do not consider them honest or ethical. Social media should not make everyone a “businessman”. We need non-businessmen in our society as well as on social media.

Someone asked what was wrong in the way the Youtuber used the old man to earn some money for himself; after all, Baba had also earned a lot in the process only due to his video. I think if the Youtuber had explicitly mentioned that he was planning to earn personally by using Baba's story, it won't be wrong. But he cheated and misled Baba as well as his audiences and that was unethical. I wish the Youtuber comes out clean and gives all the money he collected in Baba’s name to him.

Hope this incident makes people realize that human interactions should not be only for monetary gains, our feelings should not be exploited by anyone for commercial gains, and social media should still remain purely “social”.

- Rahul Tiwary

Lord Shiva

 

In childhood, out of all gods, I had special attachment with Lord Shiva. When in crisis and difficult situations, like having missed doing homework for school, I would pray to Him and most of the time I was saved. I grew up believing that He listens to me.

When my son was born, I wanted to name him after Lord Shiva. I and my wife brainstormed, looked at all options and found a lovely name which had Shiva in it. I still see both my son and the Lord connected.

I have this particular weakness that when I visit a temple or stand in front of a deity, I can’t “ask” God for anything in particular. I have to force myself to try and ask God for a boon. I still can’t and fail to ask. Somehow my brain does not work logically and I am speechless in front of the deity. It has been like this for years.

Many times, when we are faced with a situation which is beyond our control, we blame ourselves for it. It is a form of ‘victim blaming’ too. Sometimes I blame myself for asking too many things to Lord Shiva in my childhood; which has made Him ignore me now. I can’t say that I asked for too many “little things’ in childhood, because at that time, those little things appeared most important to me. On these lines, perhaps what I want now may also be a “little thing”, even though I won’t realize.

Hope Lord Shiva still listens to me some times.

- Rahul Tiwary

Best Songs Featuring Late Sushant Singh Rajput: Part-1

Lambiyaan Judaiyaan 

Khairiyat 

Makhna 

Namo Namo

Jaan Nisaar 

Sweetheart 

Fikar Not

Woh din bhi kya din the 

Khul Ke Jeene Ka

Chaar Kadam 

Paas Aao

Main Tumhara 

Taare Ginn 

Shubharambh

Meethi Boliyan

Parwah Nahi 

Padhoge Likhoge

Fir Kabhi 

Besabriyan

Kaun Tujhe 

Mashkari

Mera naam Kizie

Ik Vaari Aa

Qaafirana

Main Tera Boyfriend

Darasal

Travelogue: Motihari Railway Station

Motihari is a town in North Bihar, close to Nepal border. Motihari, the district head quarter of East Champaran, is the place where Mahatma Gandhi was jailed during his famous ‘Champaran movement’. Motihari has several monuments and a museum related to Mahatma Gandhi. Motihari railway station was renamed as “Bapudham Motihari railway station” in reminder of its connection with Gandhi ji.

Here are some of the pictures of Bapudham Motihari Railway Station, taken this year in 2020:

- Rahul Tiwary